I've been dating this guy for nine months, and he lives next door, although I sleep over at his place most nights. We are both very broke; he's unemployed and I'm a student. I buy most of the food, but until now, he's payed for one night a week when we go out for a couple beers.
A couple days ago, he said, "If you want to go out drinking, you have to pay for it." That freaked me out because my ex would always say stuff like that, and before I knew it, I was paying for everything because "I wanted it."
This new guy has always been good about sharing, but I am super hurt because of the way he said it--no discussion, no question, just a declaration that he said at a couple different times.
He also now says he doesn't want kids, even though he said he wanted them when we first started dating, and I made it clear I want them.
I'm not good with confrontation even though he's said I should tell him if anything bothers me. I come from a lot of conflict growing up. So I'm pretty hurt but I feel like I just want to break up with him before I get hurt.
Any advice?