Originally Posted by
Str8himalaya
Hello. I am in a bit of a hard spot, and I feel like I know the answer to my question, but am looking to find out from people not attached to the situation. First, in oct. of 2010 I married a woman I was dating for 6 years. We were always hot and cold, and honestly we shouldn't have gotten married. Well right before I got married, I met a girl that I almost instantly fell in love with. Needless to say, I felt the pressure and still married. Then a couple months later we divorced, and went our separate ways. I was still head over heals for this other woman I had met, but she had a boyfriend. We talked, and she talked about leaving her boyfriend, as I had left my wife. I waited for her to dump her boyfriend, and after about a year and a half she did. We started dating immediately, and had already been very close. Something I'm not proud of, but we were intimate and stayed with each other as she was still with him. First mistake, I let myself be the other guy. Second, I let her have her cake and eat it too. I was more there for her in every way, and she even moved out on her own without him so it was easier for us to see each other. We have been dating since September, but she has been reluctant to really make it hugely public, we work for the same company but at different branches, and I've even heard her say she just thought it would hurt her ex if she just started flaunting it all over the place. Well, about three days ago, we sat down, and she explained to me that for the first time in a while she was missing her ex and she didn't understand what that meant. I told her if she isn't sure, then she needs some time alone away from me and from him to figure out what she wants. She agreed and I let her go, thinking she would take the time to herself. This was on Thursday. Well come to find out, she has been talking to her ex on the phone for hours at a time since the day before our talk. This crushed me, and I confronted her. She obviously got defensive, and said I needed to trust her, and that she was going to do what she promised she would. I feel like a fool, and I feel extremely betrayed. The whole reason it took her so long to break up with him in the first place, according to her, was because once it was over, it was over and wanted to make sure of that. Now this. I'm starting to feel like it was all a lie, and I was played for two years. After waiting, after absolutely adoring her, she goes back to someone that wasn't there for her. I don't feel I've done anything wrong for the most part. I'm sure I've not given her all my attention at one time or another, and made some mistakes, but I didn't feel like it was anything to cause her to do this. I'm crushed, and just trying to sort through all this. Yes, I feel like a moron, and I probably was, but I'm looking for feedback, and if she comes back, or will she? What do I do from there?