After 2 weeks of break up, my ex misses me now

[Kromat83]

DISCLAIMER : Yes, this is the long-distance polish girl

She keeps bringing up the past, which i told her that i no longer want to talk about,
we should only talk about the present and future that we will have in our own countries.

I only consider her as a friend now, and she should respect that.

She said during the day of the breakup, that her feelings faded when she moved back, and that
she only felt something in Canada, because of the moments we shared and the environment.

Told me to move on and find myself a Canadian girl, and that is what i am doing.

I have priorities that are keeping me busy enough, so I don't need to worry about her.

I am quite over her now, and this missing you stuff came up and also bringing
out the kiss symbols when we chat, is not what i call normal.

I was going to see her in Poland, as a friend, but now with the way she is acting,
I think to be completely over her, it is best if i didn't see her at all.

This vacation will now only be for 2 weeks, to visit the family with the wedding and sightsee,
instead of the planned 6 weeks going into mid August, with the intention of meeting up with her.

She also mentioned, " But I still have hope that we will see when you come to Poland " " I still miss you"

She played with my emotions before, and really wasn't interested in this continuing because she said that
she'll never move to Canada, which is the only way it'll work long-term, and i don't want to do the long-distance
thing any longer, because it really is a waste of time, if the other isn't committed to see a future with us together.

Now that she sees that i am doing okay, with my schooling, consistent work,
and to have relationship with someone else, she wants to see, if something can
develop again in her hometown, and i want no part of it.

She told me that there's a date planned for her with someone new
for April 8, so she should focus on that person, instead of me.

I need to take a stand, as I put a lot of effort to make us work, and it was for nothing,
as she didn't see what she could have had in the future, but only that she is
comfortable with what she currently has.

She is an attractive girl, but that is not the reason i wanted to spend time with her,
it was because the more i started to get to know her, the more i grew feelings for her,
and liked the person that she was and the activities we could do together.

I realized that was just to benefit her, because she got comfortable with me and used my emotions
against me, and after a while when she showed me her true self, i knew it was time to move on.

I know i have a good perspective on this, but what do you think about this ?

[Rowen]

I think she missed her chance. If I were you, I wouldn't fall back into all of that. She obviously can't make up her mind between not feeling anything and suddenly missing you.

[lamobatsman]

NC. what are you doing still talking to her??!!

[lamobatsman]

yh she had her chance.

[Kromat83]

NC. what are you doing still talking to her??!!

I still consider her as a friend, but our talks should reflect that.

I forgot to mention, that she talked about how sex can ruin a
relationship if it doesn't satisfy the female.

We rarely chat anyways, and i wanted to explain to her, that i want no part of it anymore.

She stated she is over it, so she should act like it.

[lamobatsman]

i think ur being silly cos this shudnt even be an issue. dont talk to her. shes messing with ur mind obviously otherwise you wouldnt need to post on here about this. let her be and move on. ur happy with ur new life. no need to analyse wat shes doing

[HeartIsAching]

She's an attention whore. She stopped getting the attention from you and wants it back. If you give it to her, she'll push you away again after a while, and then want it back again.

[Kromat83]

i ain't giving her the attention though, and making a stand whenever we talk.
I already mentioned, that i wont visit her in Poland anymore, because it doesn't seem right.

If she keeps continuing this, i surely am going to stop talking to her, by deleting her account.

[no-se-nada]

Yea you know what you're doing with it. Just don't let her guilt trip you or anything and make you feel sorry for her or come see her. If she keeps it up, block her like you said

[Kromat83]

I ain't feeling sorry for her at all, because i tried showing her what could be.

Me going back to her hometown wont change anything, because i know
what type of person she is now, and doesn't want a better life.

She should just leave me alone about this, and let me live my life.

Just because she looks a certain way, doesn't mean
i should change my outlook at the person that she is,
because she'll just hurt me again, like in the past.

[Cerby]

She should just leave me alone about this, and let me live my life.

Yea, it is the "ignore" or "block" button on whatever chat program you're using.

[jamie11]

The best way to fix this is thru communication. Talk to her, be honest and tell everything that bothers you. You 2 need some time to talk and fix everything. I hope she understands.

[pcmaster]

She didnt need you when your heart was on a plate, now she dont deserve you. Took her long time to realise that theres so much more than meets the eye. Now that things didnt went so great for her she understands that you had more for her than most guys she will ever meet.

[michelle23]

She had her chance kromat so forget her. Move on

[pcmaster]

Dump her lol !