Ex Girlfriend

[Crimsonchinuk]

Hi,

I've recently split with my girlfriend of two year, she just says that we aren't working anymore and we should stop pretending we are!
At first I was all I'm sorry I'll change, I love you etc, I went on her Facebook (DevilBook) and saw that she was messaging and lad, I messaged him saying that I don't really appriciate him messaging her and he said he wouldn't speak to her. She then found out about this and went mental saying she hates my guts etc. I know i shouldn't of done that and recently apologised to both of them
I didn't speak to her for about a week after saying I'd give her space.
We spoke recently and it all seemed fine between us and I said to her straight "will we get back together" and she replied "I don't know :/" and I said i needed a 100% definite answer and she said "I don't think so ____". I accepted that and said to her that I won't be able to speak to her for a while because it'll help me move on.
Then today I got a message from her saying that "After you told "the guy" not to speak to me your there talking to tons of girls on twitter, really cool!" I didn't reply for a good while a received numerous phone calls, I didn't know what to say but I replied saying that I was sorry and didn't realise it would bother her, I was only being friendly.
She then text me saying "your a first class prick and can forget ever getting back with her. good riddance"

What am I meant to reply to her?? She has never mentioned getting back to me at all.
I do still love her and can honestly say I was being friendly to the girl on twitter.

Please can anyone give me some advice?

CC

[Ann S]

WOW! Were you ever controlling and over stepping of bounds!
How does an apology sound? Without an expectation of anything from her....an apology with no strings attached. "I am so sorry I meddled in your business. I was out of like. I hope you can forgive me. I want you to know that I think you are a great woman, and I also want you to know that I still care about you. I hope you can forgive me. Out of respect, I'll leave it to you if you want to contact me." in your own words. Ann

[Crimsonchinuk]

I have already apologised, i did state that I apologised to them both!
What I'm querying is what do i do now as she's having a go at me for talking to a girl publicly on twitter with no kisses etc just friendly.

CC

[Ann S]

There is nothing to do! And saying you're sorry, doesn't erase what happened. She can just act out however she chooses to do so. You now get to be the bigger person and rise about this. YOU can't make people be different than they are! You can only change yourself. There's a saying that might help you: " When one door closes, another opens.....but it's hell in the hallway! Ann

[Crimsonchinuk]

I think your ignoring my point, she's there having a go at me for something she did while we were going out practically!!
I'm meant to be going out tonight as well and she might be there. I don't know what to do if i see her! :/

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Stop being such a bitch.

You're not with her. Tell her to **** off. She still wants control. She doesn't like the fact that you're actually moving on. Don't change your behavior one bit. Tell her if she wants you back you're willing to try, otherwise she can **** off. Be mean. She'll eat it up and probably want you back if you can show her that you're fine without her. I don't suggest you actually get back together with her, but I do suggest that you **** her while looking for other girls.

[Crimsonchinuk]

Yeah i kinda agree with Backup... I went out to a football (Soccer) game on Saturday in Liverpool (all day drinking) and she text me that night. I ignored her and text her the next day just answering her questions. she was asking me if anything happened, how i got there and back and if i had a good day.
I think i am being a bitch but i don't want to **** her off and start playing a jealousy game.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

By not caring, you've already won. Just live your life as is, and don't hide anything on your twitter or whatever and don't apologize to her for anything. You owe her nothing. Tell her not to contact you anymore unless she wants to try again, because you don't want her interfering with what you have going on now. Be too honest with her, and she'll either leave you alone or throw herself at you. Either way, you win.

[Crimsonchinuk]

Got to have big balls do that! ha-ha best starting growing a pair!

[Crimsonchinuk]

I don't think i can do that though :/.
Say i see her tonight in a club what should i do? Say hi or ignore her

[Cerby]

I don't think i can do that though :/.
Say i see her tonight in a club what should i do? Say hi or ignore her

Get really close to her and then start hitting on some other chick so she can hear you. But as for talking to her, just pretend like she isn't even there, or a simple, "Hey, good to see you" and then turn away and go back to hitting on all the non-bitch women.

[Wakeup]

I have already apologised, i did state that I apologised to them both!
What I'm querying is what do i do now as she's having a go at me for talking to a girl publicly on twitter with no kisses etc just friendly.

CC

Tell her to mind her own business, you're no longer a couple and she has no business even talking to you if she doesn't want to reconcile

I went on her Facebook (DevilBook) and saw that she was messaging and lad, I messaged him saying that I don't really appriciate him messaging her

You best learn what overstepping boundaries means because what you did there would likely make any women leave you. It's a sign of controlling/abusive behaviour and anyone with a lick of self-worth would run for the hills from you.

Next time you don't like your SO doing something then you take it to HER and you politely ASK for what you would like to happen and if she isn't willing then that's your clue that you aren't as valued as the bloke she's chatting with and then YOU break up with HER. You have 100% control over your own actions but you have zero over hers. Her's have to be voluntary and if they're not then YOU have a decision to make.

Then today I got a message from her saying that "After you told "the guy" not to speak to me your there talking to tons of girls on twitter, really cool!" I didn't reply for a good while a received numerous phone calls, I didn't know what to say but I replied saying that I was sorry and didn't realise it would bother her, I was only being friendly.

If you were 'friendly' twittering to other women while you were still her boyfriend then you are a hypocritcal arse. If this happened after you broke up with her, then she's delusional and feel free to tell her to mind her own business and that what you do is none of her concern anymore.

[Crimsonchinuk]

Tell her to mind her own business, you're no longer a couple and she has no business even talking to you if she doesn't want to reconcile

You best learn what overstepping boundaries means because what you did there would likely make any women leave you. It's a sign of controlling/abusive behaviour and anyone with a lick of self-worth would run for the hills from you.

Next time you don't like your SO doing something then you take it to HER and you politely ASK for what you would like to happen and if she isn't willing then that's your clue that you aren't as valued as the bloke she's chatting with and then YOU break up with HER. You have 100% control over your own actions but you have zero over hers. Her's have to be voluntary and if they're not then YOU have a decision to make.

If you were 'friendly' twittering to other women while you were still her boyfriend then you are a hypocritcal arse. If this happened after you broke up with her, then she's delusional and feel free to tell her to mind her own business and that what you do is none of her concern anymore.

I was tweeting when we were split up (3 days ago) and she called me a prick and that i have no chance of getting back with her because of it!
I totally agree she is delusional it's ok for her to tweet guys when we were going out but not for me after.
I can see that she shouldn't be asking me any questions while we've split up but I just didn't want to fall out. If she asks me anymore questions I'll tell her that!

[Wakeup]

... Better still... just don't have any further contact with her. Neither of you are good for one another. She wants to continue to flirt with guys behind your back and she'd rather do that then stay with you (likely because of your control freak display).

Learn from this, let this one go because she's an attention whore anyway and will likely not grow out of it for some time yet, if ever.

Anyway, she's not meant to be your lifemate so why bother prolonging it until you end up split up again because she still needs to talk to guys behind your back.

Don't even bother responding to her immaturity and delusional thinking is my advice. NC/Zero. It will help you to accept it's over and then you'll be able to get on without her bugging you with her crap. Do work on your need to control though or this will indeed go down again in your next relationship.

Good luck.

[Crimsonchinuk]

Thanks wakeup.