How do I win her back?

[Scrambles5]

Me and my girlfriend of 2 years recently broke up. Three weeks ago we began arguing and the arguing was on and off about little things for about two weeks. Throughout that process I constantly said I wanted to break up because I felt like she was pushing me away. At the beginning of that three week period she began helping out at a fundraiser. At this fundraiser she met new friends. These friends began asking her to go out places and do things with them over spring break while i was still in school. Well, as the arguing continued one of the guys in that group of friends she met was there for her. After about two weeks she admitted that this guy reminded her of me, and that she had feelings for him but she loved me and the feelings she had for me were stronger. I tried to win her back over the next week but she said she needed time. She said she still loved me and she says she knows we will get back together. We broke up a week ago but hung out still, went on dates and spent the night with each other. Just two days ago she told me that that guy had asked her out but she said no because she still loves me. However I told her she cant stay torn between us. She said that she wants to know what she is missing in our relationship and she says that she doesnt see this guy as a sexual partner. I finally told her that she needed to accept him asking her out and for her to date him because if she stays torn then we are both going to be miserable. To me she has false feelings, as he was there for her when she was vulnerable. Plus all her new friends are friends with the guy she is now dating and she is scared that if she ends things with him than she will lose all these friends she never had before. Also the guy said that if she did not go out with him and came back to me then he couldnt be friends with her anymore. Prom is also coming up and she needs a date and im guessing that is another reason to stay with him because now she has a date and she has a group of friends to go out with. To me this all seems like a rebound, that she finally has friends that want to hang out all the time and recently I have had several midterms and have not been able to go out with her like she has wanted while her friends and this guy have. Last week we broke up and still decided to go on dates she said she was really happy and wished that things could have been like this when we were arguing. However when she goes home she says that although everything seems perfect when we are together she starts to get confused again. She says she wants to be with me but needs to go with this guy to make sure she can realize what she is missing. I just need someones opinion on all this. I feel like she will come back eventually. Two days ago I told her to go with that guy and now they have been dating for two days and I hate the fact of it but I know its the only way to save our relationship and if not then at least we ended on good terms. Since those two days we have not texted or called each other at all. However we do work together one day out of the week which was two days ago and at the end of the night I walked her to her car and she told me she loved me and we kissed when just earlier that day her and that guy officially started dating. She said she still wants to celebrate our anniversary which is coming up in a month if we are back together or not. To me she is just in a phase where she is scared to lose her friends and through this she has created false feelings for this guy so she doesnt lose out on her friends and prom. So what do you all think? What should I do? People have said they have seen them together holding hands and him holding her when they are together. To me she is moving fast and trying to fill the void she misses with me. She also said that she hopes it takes no more than a month to realize that she needs me back because she wants to be with me, but she wants to be with me when her feelings are back to 100%. I appreciate your time and responses. Thank you

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Leave this stupid cunt alone. Go out with other girls, and stop initiating any contact with her. When she initiates contact with you(she will), tell her not to contact you for any reason unless it is to get back together. You really should start moving on so she realizes you're not waiting for her, and if you start hooking up with other girls you'll get her roused up even quicker. You really should see some other girls for your own good, just so you're not stuck thinking this is the only girl for you. Treat it as over forever, and she may come back, but keep in contact and she'll just use you to heal then drop you.

[smackie9]

Most would say start moving on because she is afraid to tell you the truth. Me personally I wouldn't listen to her bull shit either. She keeps telling you she loves you, because she is too insecure to let go, not because she is still in love with you. If she was in love with you, she wouldn't care about this guy. If you want to believe her, I say whatever she is doing, she needs to figure it out on her own and the best thing you can do is give her, her space. Oh and you should be out enjoying the company of other girls while you wait.