Is she hiding something from me? (Please help!)

[kedonot1]

Hello everyone..I'm new here..and I need some help (Please read the whole thing, It's not boring..It's worth reading it all.)


My girlfriend and I have been almost dating for 7 months now. We've been really happy couple, and It doesn't seem anything has gone wrong..I think. Before we started dated, she really really liked me, more than I liked her at first.

We're a really strong couple, and deff don't think we'll break up..We haven't even really fought before.
However, It came to my attention..It seems like she is hiding something from me.

Last week, someone posted a status, with her tagged in it..saying "(Her name) Let's Skype later?"
I asked her about that, and she said it was her friends...friend. I was like "Okay, sure."
It started bugging me out, and I went to vacation to Florida a day after for Spring Break. It was bugging me severely..

So, I texted her saying "Can you please tell the truth? Have you been talking to any guys, in anyway?" And she said "Yes..I talked to this one guy, but it doesn't matter anymore. I just blocked him.".. I honestly, flipped out pretty bad. I told her she made me feel so useless and pathetic. And that I felt like that I wasn't good enough for her. She started crying, etc..and I felt so bad after. But I had to shut my phone off for a bit, because I was extremely mad. I really don't wanna lose her.. and this all happened Thursday..

However, I noticed over the past months..She's been trying to hide stuff from me. Like, if she pulls her phone out..or iPod touch, she'll angle it the opposite direction of me, and act like she's hiding something. I also once opened her notes on her iPod..and she swiped it from my hands, and said "hold on. you can't read that." and than she gave me it.. (I was gonna write her a letter saying how much I loved her.. :\"

Today, we hung out..and she did the same thing to me. I told her "I feel like you're gonna find someone better and more attractive to me." She said really strongly that there's no one more attractive than me.. (Which is BS.)

She showed me her contact list saying I'm the only boy on there, except her dad. Which.. I didn't even ask her. And strangely, she got a new phone so. But before (like a a month ago) she showed me her contacts..and someone named "Mikey" was in it...but now he isn't?

She also gave me her Facebook password, and I went on it one night(Like a few weeks ago, maybe?) , when I felt like something was happening and I felt like she was talking to another guy..and one of her messages was some kid named "Ryan" and she said "TEXT MEE!" ... Like what the f*ck? Than today, I checked again..and that message was deleted.

Ugh, I dunno. What should I do? I'm probably gonna say something when she wakes up..she's having a headache at the moment, and she doesn't feel good. I'm not gonna break up with her, and I really don't want her too. But i've been cheated on in the past too many times by other girls, and if she does it. I'm deff gonna break up with her..because I don't deal with that immature childish stuff.

Please help!

[michelle23]

I think your being paranoid and insecure. Your also being clingy and needy and your just creating problems. If your not careul she will dump you.

It doesnt sound like she is hiding anything. You think she is guilty so everything you find or everything she does seems suspicious. But id say its all in your head.

How old are you both? How often do you see each other?

She said you can trust her right? You need to give her the benefit of the doubt and believe her-stop looking through her FB etc-she eouldnt give you her password if she had something to hide.

You need to let her breath and stop being so paranoid. Stop with your insecurity crap too. Shes with you coz she thinks yoyr great, hot etc and she loves you. Stop thinking someone else is gonna take her off you. You need to believe you are good enough for her. If you meep picking fights with her-shell just get sick of you.

Youve even made her cry and she hasnt done anything. Stop it now!

[basilandthyme]

yep: paranoid, needy, insecure and clingy. Of course she hides things from you - because you get bent out of shape about her talking with other guys. She doesn't want to have to deal with your accusations. If you were secure and didn't care when she spoke with others, she wouldn't hide stuff.

If you keep up this behaviour you'll drive her away....and probably into the arms of another.

[smackie9]

Dude if you have a trail of ex gfs that have cheated on you, you might want to start looking at why....like at your controlling behavior and your lack of confidence. If she wants to chat with a guy or two let her. It's not cheating. If you can't trust her, then break up with her now and spare her the arguments you are going to start with her over this.