you probably get posts like this everyday so I'll try to make this as brief as possible. but to make a long story short, I have known a friend of mine for about a year now. I started developing feelings for her about 6 months ago and told her how I felt. She had a boyfriend and simply asked "can we still be friends" to which I replied yes.
time goes on and we become much much closer. I mean we were already close as friends, but for the past 3 months we have been spending about 6 hours of our day together everyday. we are both in college, so after classes we typically meet everyday in the library at 5 pm, study together until 10, then go to the gym together until 12. we typically cook dinner for each other (alternating days) and always hang out. about a month ago she told me her relationship with her current boyfriend was a ticking time bomb, and on that same night ( I had a test the next day) she gave me a four leaf clover and wished me luck. I can't really explain it, but you'll just have to trust me when I say that night was very special, and I felt like there was definitely something there.
time goes on this past month, and I was told by a friend that she told him that her current boyfriend is a loser, but she can't seem to leave him. our friend asked what about me, and she said maybe. and for the past month we have been getting closer and closer, we go rock climbing together, hiking, out to dinner etc.
well this past weekend her boyfriend came down from where they are from (she lives aways from where we go to college), and they hugged and kissed like any normal couple, though they had a pretty big argument while all 3 of us were hanging out. and her boyfriend was definitely suspicious of me as he kept trying to bring up the subject of how often we hang out, which I essentially ignored. (changed the subject)
lastly last night, I finally told her how I felt once again. unlike last time where she looked down and just asked if we could still be friends, she was smiling at me and looking at me. I am disappointed in the way I acted, in that I couldn't help but shed a tear ( I have just been in love with her for so long, and to finally let it out was just to emotional for me.) but long story short, I told her I was in love with her and shed a tear. she was smiling at me and said "you don't have to cry." I said I wasn't crying, and then she changed the subject and asked where I had went hiking that day, and other subjects.
Ultimately she didn't say no, or tell me to stop. but she didn't say "I love you too" or anything like that. it may not be the best outcome, but I was happy with it, as it was an improvement over last time, and by not saying "no" it means I have a shot. and like I said, she had a genuine smile the whole time. after that I had to leave and that was that
well here comes today. we hadn't seen or spoke to each other all day and I went to our usual 5 pm meeting spot to study. but she had to study elsewhere today for a test tomorrow with a different group (nothing wrong with that at all). but I tapped on the door just to say "hi" like we normally do when we don't study together, and I kind of got an awkward wave, with no smile this time. very much unlike her.
that's the only thing that happened, and maybe I am looking to much into an "awkward wave" but I can't help but sit over here in the other room and being extremely concerned that I screwed things up. after last night, I thought everything was ok, but then why the awkward wave today? I mean sure it could be something unrelated, but what happened to that smile? was she just being nice last night? and more importantly I took her changing the subject with a smile to be a good thing last night, was I maybe wrong about that?
I love this girl with all my heart, but we are studying very hard right now for our goals, and if I've made things weird for her, I just don't know that I can forgive myself. I am just curious what you girls think
thank you for any advice.