Question and opinions please regarding a letter to my ex!

[boabmac]

My ex and i broke up a little over 3 months ago (together for 8 years). I found out that she started talking to a guy 2 weeks after we broke up and they started dating a few weeks later. I wasn't in contact with her during this time but i had to see her to get my passport off of her. I said to her i had heard she was in a new relationship and she just nodded her head and asked who had told me. A told her it didn't matter who but she kept on at me to tell her who had told me. I told her who had said its none of my business anyway and I hope everything works out for them both and then we changed the subject.
Before i left I told her i had wrote her a letter and if she wanted it. She asked what it was about and a said "us obviously", she said it was up to me if I gave her it. I said Is there any point if you are with a new guy and she just shrugged and said again it was up to me!
I never sent it but her previous reaction to the letter was bugging me as I'm now thinking if she wasn't interested at all she would have just said "no it's too late and I'm not interested in what you have to say". So a week later I text her and asked if she was still interested in what I had to say and she said "why don't you just phone me and tell me, I don't know why you have to put it in a letter". I told her if i called I wouldn't be able to say everything i want to say. She said she didn't want a letter she would rather i called and just say what I have to say but a said no because I just wouldn't get it all out through a phone call and she said "well if you don't want to call and talk....send a letter..."
My question is, what do you guys think about this and should I just send the letter?

[Ann S]

I think it is obvious that she doesn't care what you think. I hope you shred the letter and move on with your life. All this focus on her is just a drain on your brain. When someone shows you who they are, believe them! Ann

[overanxious]

hey at least she had the decency to start talking to the guy after you broke up....hopefully....unlike my ex.....eh...i mean do you really want to call and talk? or give her a letter? you were together 8 years and as soon as its over shes out with a new guy....couldnt have meant that much to her

[boabmac]

Yeah that's what I'm thinking. I still can't look at another girl that way yet and she's off as if i never existed. To be honest the letter is just to explain some things that happened towards the end of our relationship. We were arguing a lot and it was annoying me because it was mostly misunderstandings and when trying to explain things it just started more arguing so we both agreed to break up. I really just want to tell her, without a fight, what i was really feeling and thinking at that time. I also want to do it because I loved her and I know she loved me.