28 and lame?

[meloveulongtime]

Am I lame for being 28, single, and not yet in a steady relationships. All my gfs are ither married or in a committed relationship. Hanging out with them isn't as fun as it use to be or I'm always suck being the third wheel. Lately They've been tying to hook me up on blind dates with their husband's friend, guy friends, etc. Once my aunt even told me she was worried I was a lesbian since I dont ever bring a date, mainly s guy, around.I know I should be open to date but for some apparent reason. I hesitate with men.... Help?!

[pcmaster]

How often do you masturbate?

[meloveulongtime]

Omgahhh how's that question relevant to my thread? Lol

[meloveulongtime]

Mmmm every other day at the minimal.. dont get me wrong, I love dicks but I also like to preserve my sacred vagina for minimal beating from all sizes.

[pcmaster]

Well good that you are honest. It will be possible to help you. First of all you have top stop masturbate for few months or whatever time needed to find a boyfriend. Sexual energy will motivate you, make you more atractive, open minded and social.

However cause of masturbation could be porn addiction and porn addiction might come from internet addiction. And addictions comes from boring lifystyle, lack of passion, hobbies, too much spare time, quiet social life and what not.

Also you have to lower your sex drive to make it easier quit
What helped for me is 2-3 contrast and cold showers a day, lots of food(food kills sex drive too)5-6 meals a day and ofcourse to avoid shorterm satisfactions you need a longterm goal. I was lucky to met awesome girl I was dating with. Also I got rid of laptop and only PC available was liblary where I spend 30 minutes per week at max. Because had no will and time to. Even these 30 minutes were spend to buy protein powder for training. Its so much easier when you know where you are going, when small sacrifices have a purpoise. You will find that you suddently know what you want from life and know excatly how to get there.

Short moorning runs really helps to focus on days tasks and drinking water early in the moorning helps think so much more clearly. Talking alot will make you forget masturbation too. Talk with everyone you can. Interact with new people meet new friends or talk with those who are passionate about what they do. Such people might infect you with passion. Once you emotionaly fulfilled you will find masturbation booring and uneeded.

Here is some inspiring video if you want to

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vVjcRSeQsr0

[meloveulongtime]

Wow I never expected that as an answer but I can totally understand where your coming from. See, the problem is I dont desire the attention from men more so I like to focus my time and energy on interesting people and self improving. And yes I do love being around people but I dont care to be center of attention ither. Good company and connection is all I seek for in a partner. I find men who are creative, Motivated, passionate, and career driven such turn ons. They are sexy and intriguing to my eyes. I guess i just haven't met someone like that in along while that I feel is worth my time.

On the other hand, friends and family tells me I need to get out and open opportunities to meet guys and start dating.

[basilandthyme]

meloveulongtime, you're asking if you're lame. I'm reading about how your family and friends want you to start dating - but what do YOU want? Are you happy with your current lifestyle? If so, then there's no reason to change.

[pcmaster]

When you find your dream man then you will want something to take him with. Thats why better start work on yourself so you can kill the prey easy.

[Rowen]

Don't let anyone tell you that it's lame to be in the situation that you're in. So, if you're happy where you're currently at, congrats; you're living life as you should- not for anyone's standards but your own.

[HeartIsAching]

No, you're not lame. If it's what you want, so be it. Some people never want to be married, or have children. One of my exes got her tubes tied when she was 28 because she didn't want children... one of her aunts said "Aren't you being selfish?" to which she replied "No, you are."

Do what you do for you, not for someone else.

[pcmaster]

You become as big as your dominant aspiration or as small as your controling desire.

[Kromat83]

maybe your expectations are too high.

You need to stop finding men at work,
most of all and just find someone that
supports you and you have a strong
connection with, give people you don't
normal date a chance and maybe it'll break
the routine your having and don't force the
attraction, just let it happen.