Originally Posted by
Starting_Over
Thanks for your advice! I see what you're saying, and I definitely understand. I definitely thought a lot about what you're saying long before posting this. Like I said, I don't want it to jump into being a relationship. I don't think either he nor I are in a place for that. I just know that I do have a crush, he has been a great friend to me, and that I would slowly just see where things go. At the very least I would like to work towards my crush becoming a mutual liking of one another, even though I know it shouldn't bloom into a relationship for quite some time. And with all things considered, I think that would work for him, too.
The most likely outcome of going so slowly would be that you get placed into the 'friend-zone' and stay there. And if you're not ready for a relationship, it's not fair to the other person to hold them back to your schedule.
I think you're better off taking time for yourself. You need time to heal and he needs more time to extricate himself from the web of his ex. And frankly, until he's free of entanglements, he's a very poor option for you.
Give it few months and see how it feels then.
Never regret anything that has happened in your life. It cannot be changed, forgotten or undone. So, take it as a lesson learned and move on.