no advances from girlfriend

[skeeziix]

Michelle23 I love sex too don't get me wrong but after years of being together it can get monotonous after 5 years and its not like your going to have sex twice a day like you did in the beginning. I wish. I believe you need to spice it up if you truly want to make each other happy. I mean date nights and all that jazz helps.

This girl sounds like I did is all I am saying, my ex groped me all the time it wasn't a loving kiss and hug it was always sexual and after a while it just felt perverted. I swatted him away because I got sick of being groped. He was also younger than me and wanted sex way more than I did. I didn't ever really have that spark with him, I think without that you're doomed.

Maybe she is just too comfortable. Both people have to want it and put the effort in, love has to be mutual or what is the point.

[searock]

Yes you cant go against girls will thats for sure but what they mean is easing girl into it by taking her to the point near orgasm where she is more likely to give in or be okay, so increasing the chances with experimental stuff.

Of course it's a good idea to make a sexual partner really horny before attempting to try anything new or "taboo" - you break more taboos when you're really horny.

What is NOT a good idea is to prevent a girl from reaching orgasm if she doesn't want to have anal sex with you no matter how horny she is. As a girl, I can honestly say that that is just a selfish, irritating, manipulative and immature thing to do. I would not want to have sex again with a guy who did that to me.

[pcmaster]

Finaly I understand you.

. As a girl, I can honestly say that that is just a selfish, irritating, manipulative and immature thing to do. I would not want to have sex again with a guy who did that to me.

Yes you wont.

Or maybe you would?

[HeartIsAching]

Gotta tell ya man... trying to manipulate a girl into doing something she doesn't want to in the sack is a good way to wind up with blue balls or single... or both.

[michelle23]

i agree with HIA-some men will never learn. as i said to flacooln you need emtional intelligence to survive a long term relationship and some men have none. the ones who have it-make the best bfs/husbands. btw fla has tons of it.


pcmaster if u want anal sex that bad-then you need to find a girl who likes it and wants it too.. you cant ever expect someone to do something sexually that they are uncomfortable with-its a form of abuse if she does something she hates just to keep you interested in her. and refusing to make her orgasm unless she satisfies you is just plain narcissistic and manipulative. using sex as a weapon will not do you any favours with women. sex should be an act of love and she should feel safe and comfortable with you at all times.

even bdsm partners have all these rules, safe words, boundaries etc and respect each others limits to ensure the sub always feels safe..

anyway OP id say this whole rut your stuck in has prob become a habit. you need to break the habit and start making new ones that increase affection and intimacy.

[michelle23]

skeezix-ya i no what your saying but i dont think sex should become monotonous or boring if your compatable. it has never been boring in my relationship. and you implied that no matter who he goes out with-shelk go off sex after a few years. thats not true.

obviously if you get into a routine of mon, wed, fri sex at 10pm with 10mins of foreplay,5mins of sex, same position, same way each time lol then its gonna become a chore but other than that it should not be.

it should be spontanious, sometimes a quickie, sometimes a longie, sometimes just oral, a 69r,different positions, different rooms in the house etc. that way it never gets boring. sometimes wild, sometimes romantic, sometimes slow lol..
anyway keep it diverse and interesting and youll never get bored, itl never be a chore and always satisfying.

you both also have to be givers and ensure its enjoyable for both each time.

[pcmaster]

you cant ever expect someone to do something sexually that they are uncomfortable with-its a form of abuse if she does something she hates just to keep you interested in her.

Last summer I found out its amazing with what women can put up if she knows theres love in it.

Thats why HIA asks where is the love cause girl dont even want to go extra mile to make her partner satisfied.

[michelle23]

lol well you have not met a woman like me then. I dont care how strong the love is-sometimes love is not enough if your unhappy or changing who you are, doing things you dont want to do. That is not love.

I think your view of love and women is warped-probably from watching too much porn.

[searock]

Last summer I found out its amazing with what women can put up if she knows theres love in it.

If you mean sexually, then she is NOT "putting up" with it. She is enjoying it.

If a woman agrees to do something that she isn't comfortable with (sexually speaking), then she has some kind of issue - it has nothing to do with her "knowing there's love in it".

[pcmaster]

Im talking more about topic, simply knowing that your partner not finished yet and finish him off. That should be natural if they are together for years. If she gave him handhobs before that means she knows hes not done yet, yet igores the fact, as a result OP is losing confidence. Make eachother happy - isnt thats what relationships is about?

[searock]

Im talking more about topic, simply knowing that your partner not finished yet and finish him off. That should be natural if they are together for years. If she gave him handhobs before that means she knows hes not done yet, yet igores the fact, as a result OP is losing confidence. Make eachother happy - isnt thats what relationships is about?

But this has nothing to do with "putting up" with anything.

We all agree that in a healthy relationship, partners enjoy giving each other pleasure. The fact that the OP's girlfriend is unwilling to have satisfying sex with him means that there are bigger issues that should be explored.

[smackie9]

Ya she wants the f uck out of this relationship but is scared to do it. Time to make the move to call it quits....she's been waiting.