Girl I like is really touchy feely but doesn't text now.. What should I do?

[rider651]

Hello Everyone

This is my first post on this forum. I will introduce myself on another thread but I just have this problem with a crush that I can't stop to think of. I really feel the need to seek advice from people on this issue.

So, there's this girl I know since almost 2 years. She doesn't have a boyfriend and we have many things in common. The only time I see her is during a course in school which takes place twice a year for two days. Last week we just completed our third out of four courses. In the first course I noticed she kinda touchy but nothing more. In the second we were talking to each other a lot more and had that special eye contact where we looked at each other twice. I definitely felt something but messed up and didn't ask for her number. 9 months later (2 weeks ago) on the first day of our third course she was really touchy feely and talked to me a lot. I waited until the second and last day of the third course (last friday) to ask for her number. That day, she again was really touchy with me, but with me ONLY,
She makes remarks about my physique (been hitting the gym since 10 months and got very good results).
She jokingly pushes me and one time jokingly hit her girl friend just to come by my side to 'hide'. She was really touchy throughout the whole day (e.g. like pushing me and stuff)
Anyways, she's touchy feely like that but as i said only with me. I tried to respond to her the same way she acts to me but i'm pretty shy. I asked her questions, tried to talk to her and it went all pretty well. Then after the course was over, we and a few other friends walked to the train station. we then were alone and as my train was arriving, it was my last opportunity to ask for her number (next course is in half a year). So, i asked her and she gave it to me. She hasn't shown any sign of regret or surprise after i asked her. She seemed pretty happy. Then we gave each other a kiss on the cheek (she made the "muaaah"-sound)

Now I FINALLY had her number. Later in the evening (about 10 pm, it was Friday) I texted her.
She responded the next morning like this: "Who are you?" Then I wrote: "The guy from the course"
Her: "Ooooohh [my name] "
Me: "You know, I found it mean that you were pushing me yesterday "
Her: "Really?"
Me: "Hahaha you thought I were serious"
Her: "I don't really know what you're like.."
(This is where I think I kinda messed up) Me: "Would be weird if i was such a p***y"
Her: "Yeah but you didn't put an emoticon next to it so i was kinda uncertain."
Me: "Alright, next time I'll put one next to it "

After this, I haven't written anything to her and neither did she. It's been almost two days and I plan on texting her again tomorrow and eventually ask her out. (my friend's advice)

Now my question is:

What would be a good thing to text her.
How can I find out if she really likes me ?
And how should I ask her out?

This girl is unbelievably cute, like an angel and it would be the most amazing thing if I could hang out with her but I'm also a bit afraid of getting dumped. Especially because I'll see her in half a year at the fourth course again.

Many thanks for responses.

[HeartIsAching]

Man... you're over-complicating things.

Just say "I really like you. Do you want to go out sometime?"

[pcmaster]

You are mistunderstanding eachother already in these texts. Better keep it simple and use phone to meet her some where. Hers interest is mostly sexual and without body you would be nobody. Also you will be less atracted to her if she will be less beautiful. Anyway dont let her looks be a barrier cause you would want either if she would be intimated by you and afraid to touch kiss etc. So keep it simple just hold her in your hands and make her feel good. Ofcourse compliment her on her looks - that will make her only more atracted to you couse everyone likes to be apreciated. And dont be idiot and be afraid of getting dumped - its stupid thinking about future when you didnt even had a present. You will lose on shit thats going on now if you thing about future. Just live the moment enjoy and by doing so you will secure your future with her. Even if you will split up at some point at least make some memories to remember while you have a chance.

Also I would suggest ask her out before you get her bored with your texts. Most importand dont put her on the pedestal. Its ok if girls are more cute than guys cause thats the job look good, They might have quality but we have quantity and they like that. Write down poitive things about yourself - think of yourself as a friend and some of these good charasteristics will be excatly why she likes you. I have no doubt she does likes you. Whatever you do asume that she likes you and enjoy what you are doing. It will do magic for starting relationship.



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[rider651]

If it only were so simple..

I would go out with her FIRST, THEN tell her i really like her. But the problem is: If she's not interested, I am no longer interested in going out with her anymore. Therefore, I want to know if she's interested but now I don't really know what to text her..

[pcmaster]

Your biggest problem right now is hesitating. Because every second you wait gives you time to think stupid thoughts(no offense everyone have insecurities). Do something first and then expect her to like you, if you wana have fun then do something. But thinking shes likes me or not is a girly thought and with this mindset you get nowhere because she already doing this job - thinking girly. Whats your job is to be secure - basicaly be confident like real man should be.

"I want to know if she's interested but now I don't really know what to text her"

The answer is in the question. Ask her if shes interested.

I want - thats all you have to know. As long as you like her you will know what you want from her. As long as you do what you want you are making progress.

[rider651]

Thank you so much for your answers! It gave me some confidence and I really appreciate it!

Hers interest is mostly sexual and without body you would be nobody.

I don't think that's the case because this girl was touchy even before I started working out. But I don't think it matters that much. I just see it as a bonus.

But anyways, I'll just go ahead and ask her tomorrow if she wants to hang out. I'll report back what she responded.