Could use some help

[BSimoe2]

Hey, I'm new in this forum, and I would like if someone help me with this, please.

Ok, first I'm going to try to describe myself, I'm smart (not a book worm), I'm like, the third or fourth best in my class, I'm tall (6"2), and I am thin/with some muscles (I weigh 152 pounds), and I'm sort of blonde, I'm not like "wierd" as in being a metal guy or something like that, I'm normal, and I'm really really nice to girls, and I can make them laugh, without being the class clown, but the catch is that I'm really really shy.

And this is the thing I could use the help: I'm in school, and I like a girl who is one year younger than me, and she is like the perfect match for me, she looks like me in many ways, she likes the same kind of music as I do, she is really nice, she is really cute, and she is really pretty, with a perfect smile (for me, in a girl, one of the most important things is the smile), she hast the cutest voice, and she loves to draw, like me, and she is shy too. I've been talking to her since like, November, in her ask, and after a month or so, I started talking to her on facebook, and later in sms's. A friend of mine already told me that the way I talk to her in facebook, and so, looks like she is my girlfriend, and it's been like that for some time, and in January, I told her that I liked her and instead of saying "GTFO" or "go to hell" or something like that, she instead told me that, she didn't like me that way, but that she wasn't going to stop talking to me, so we continued talking and everything, and I told her that as she didn't like me that way, I was going to try to get over it, of liking her. And some time later, I finally got over (not quite) of my shyness, and when I see her at school I say hi and smile, and she does the same, of course, but that's it. I already gave her two little things, just for fun, one was a little stuffed shark that I got on a Happy Meal (I don't eat happy meal'), and for her birthday, that was two weeks ago, I gave her a little purple monkey also from Happy Meal, but I wrapped it, like a "real" gift, and I wrote a paper that I put in there, saying Happy Birthday, and stuff like that, but, I came to Germany two weeks before her birthday, so I gave it to her before, and told her to only open in on her birthday, and she did. She really liked it, and now, I'm going back to Portugal (my country), and soon I will have my driving license for a motorbike, and I already have my bike, and I asked her if she then would want to go for a ride, and she said yes, because her grandpa used to take her sometimes in his motorbike, but he died last year, so she didn't ride on a bike since. But, in school, I want to go talk to her, I really want to start to talk to her like I talk to her of Fb, but I just don't have the guts, I'm really that shy, and I don't know what to do.

So could anyone try to help me?
Thanks

PS: sorry if my english sucks

[pcmaster]

Well you can already say her Hi. Thats pretty good start. Increase the amount of words gradually. Its like facing fear and every time you face fear its starts dieng and you become more and more free.
Next time say;" Hi ! you look gorgeos." or "Hi ! How are you?"(Try not to say bullshit like "Its a lovely day" etc. but say what you realy want to say like how beautiful she are and you like her , you want to spend time together with her, you want get to know her better.) And so on add something more to that hi every day. As long as shes facing you and smiling thats the indication of interesest and she wants to talk with you. If shes turning her shoulder or back to you and not smiling that means shes turned off.

Anyway as more you think of her as more useless you become near her. Its because your emotions grows but real life expierience dont. Facebook is not good also if you want to step out of your shell. Only whats said in real life counts cause it takes balls and emotions is real not stupid smilies like you see on internet.

So stop thinking of her, keep busy, talk with strangers,, talk with other girls and you will find it so much easier talk with her when you see her.

Basicaly anything that puts you in the centre of attention in public is good to overcome your aproaching shyness. Like public speeches, doing stupid stuff in public places that gets other people attention. Talking with strangers etc.

[BSimoe2]

Thanks for helping, I need to try this.

[michelle23]

Just do it. Seriously. Your over complicating everything. Just tell her you like her. I bet she really likes you too. Ask her out. After a few dates-youll both be over your shyness and you can relax