How can i stop my self from loving, missing and contacting my ex fiancé? Please help.

[Zolito]

Six months passed after our breakup i saw her yesterday on a high way with her driver, we were together for one year, could not believe my self when i saw her but she did not see me, today at the same way i was looking around all the way, may be the chance happen again (of course impossible) , i need to hug her and look at her face, I cried a lot yesterday, I was loving her like hell, and i tried so many times to get her back, but she ignored me at all and lately she changed her mobile number, she is so tough and drastic, every time I imagine her with someone else I feel like thousands knives are stabbing all around my body, cannot stop missing and loving her, cannot stop my self from trying to contact her, I was resisting calling her today for about four hours and at the end I gave up and called her and found the number not existing anymore, our breakup was on bad terms, but I am so kind and i can forgive anyone without any problems, but she is really tough, when we were together i gave her everything that any girl may wish for from her lover, everything you can imagine, I really cannot understand how hard she is, I feel that i am so weak, i cannot get over her, she was all my life, I am so miserable really, I tried everything to get over her, shopping, work, study everything, but still thinking about her, I cannot concentrate anymore neither in work nor in study, I do not feel any attraction to any girl since the breakup, really it is so painful, i did never feel this pain before, even body pain is much easier than this emotional pain, I want to die, but the only thing I want to still alive for is to see her again by chance , may be i need a medical help.

[Zolito]

I mean shopping, work, study......etc. do you like it now?

What a nice and helpful reply! really appreciated !

[pcmaster]

Well keep a mile from her and everything that reminds her. Also fill up your time with work and friends. Eat a lot, sleep a lot, go out with friends. Have fun. You have to do this for long time like few months to feel better. Also contact your parenst oftend. Parents love helps a lot. Basicaly just dont be lonely because thats when the pain is stronger than you.

[Zolito]

Really i am not going to waste more time replying to fools like you, i respect my self and will not lose my respectiveness with an animal.

Please stop posting replies here and go to another topic - SOB

[Zolito]

Again Mr. Idiot, if you have something useful say it, if you do not just put your tongue into your ass hole and shut up.

[Starnique]

Lol. At backup...sorry that was funny Op

It's gonna take time. There is no remedy. You have to occupy yourself and.focus on you. I know it seem like the hurt will never end but it will get easier every day. Don't contact him or take his calls so you wont stay caught up in your emotions. Its hard but it works.

[Zolito]

The most thing i am missing with her is the same thing i miss with your mom and sister, did you understand?

[Zolito]

Thank you and i hope that time heals everything

[Starnique]

Wait i thought u was a girl..oops well still apply what i said. Lol

[VerticalMoon]

If this is the way you still feel a lot of days after six months, it might not be a bad idea to talk to a therapist. If you feel like things have generally, but you're just having a bad couple of days because of seeing her, you'll just have to work through it. Sometimes when trying to avoid the pain doesn't seem to work, the best way to get over it is to just give yourself permission to cry for a while. Instead of trying to busy yourself with work or shopping, give yourself some time off. Just pamper yourself and let yourself feel what you need to feel. After a while, you should find it easier to get back to your normal life.

[Cerby]

Absence and separation are the answers. The more you think about her and the more you dwell on her, the more she will remain in your thought. 6 months to get over a 12 month relationship should be enough. Was it your first relationship?

[Rowen]

When Cortez reached the new world, he burned his ships. As a result, his men could not run away.

I recommend a similar course of action. Delete them from your life. It may hurt, but you'll be protecting yourself in the long run.

[TablesandChairs]

Not all relationships work out. Sometimes, we feel more for our partners than they do for us or vice versa. People have a right to end relationships that don't satisfy them. This is what she did and in some way, you should be grateful that she didn't waste years and years of your time.

Have you lost interest in your hobbies, your friends, are you feeling tired, anxious etc? You may have depression, which is not uncommon after a break up. You might want to see a doctor for further advice. Otherwise, one thing you can rely on is that time does heal. It took me over a year to get over a break-up (8 year relationship). I'm not saying I was absolutely miserable that whole time, but I wasn't myself.

[Zolito]

If this is the way you still feel a lot of days after six months, it might not be a bad idea to talk to a therapist. If you feel like things have generally, but you're just having a bad couple of days because of seeing her, you'll just have to work through it. Sometimes when trying to avoid the pain doesn't seem to work, the best way to get over it is to just give yourself permission to cry for a while. Instead of trying to busy yourself with work or shopping, give yourself some time off. Just pamper yourself and let yourself feel what you need to feel. After a while, you should find it easier to get back to your normal life.

Thanks a lot

[Zolito]

Absence and separation are the answers. The more you think about her and the more you dwell on her, the more she will remain in your thought. 6 months to get over a 12 month relationship should be enough. Was it your first relationship?

It was not the first relationship, I dated some girls before, one of them was my girlfriend for 9 years, but never felt the love I had with this one - my fiancé. Thanks for your reply.