http://bpdfamily.com/
http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.ca/2006/10/common-games-between-those-with.html
^^^ Those sites might help you, OP. Keep up with your therapy because the very fact you stayed with her particular brand of crazy indicates you have codependency traits. I trust your therapist is proficient in codependency.. talk to him/her about it and see what he/she says.
Good luck
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion