I wonder if you would mind giving me your opinion on how things ended with us. We were in a long-distance relationship, after meeting on a volunteering project over summer. Things were going well, we texted everyday, called a few times a week and skyped once a week. After 8 weeks apart I went to visit him, it was the first time we had seen each other since summer. The visit was less than ideal and I could kick myself for how I behaved while I was there. Well we were intimate pretty quickly and I think I said something that may have upset him, it was quite an intimate thing so I won’t share it here, either way he said that he felt emasculated (obviously a big mistake on my part, I didn’t mean to make him feel like this). Later the same night, things were heating up again between us but things weren’t exactly working on his end and I got upset, I cried and clearly this was a mistake. Later in the visit we were chatting about going to see a show and I told him that I had never been to one and he said that if we’re still together by my birthday then he would take me, later I got upset about the fact that he said “if”. The night before I was due to leave I told him that I had never liked anyone as much as him, and that I felt closer to him for having seen him, he said he felt closer to me too!!
2 weeks after the visit he called me up to end it, and I believe my behaviour was the main factor, my friends have tried to reassure me otherwise, that it was the distance but I’m not convinced. It been really getting me down that I’ve lost a good man and it’s my own stupid fault. I know I was not acting from a place of confidence or my true feminine self and that I let fear rule my emotions while I was there. I would love love love to know what you think and if you have any advice for me. The whole situation has been really getting me down and I can’t seem to put it behind me, I know he’s moved on but I can’t seem to, I know we were only together for a short while but he was the first guy that I had liked in a long time and properly connected with. Ideally I would love to get back together but I know that this is unlikely but your advice would be so wonderful.