Originally Posted by
Pixie01
I do still think about him, but I can't be with him. He lied to me repeatedly (e.g. planned a sexual outing with an ex lover which I found out about on facebook or lied about having slept with a man that I work with- turns out he was bi and I didn't tell me until I confronted him). He used $3500 of my money and continued to give me his sob stories to get more money out of me until I finally left him. He manipulated me by being passive aggressive (e.g. if I sat on "his side" of the sofa he would not talk to me for two hours or if I didn't go get him Mc Donalnds for supper he would not talk to me the next day. If I did not give him a ride to his friends because he did not drive, he would walk and say "I will be home when I am not made anymore, maybe in a few days"). I tried to talk to him about how his actions affected me, and how I wanted him to help out with supper or getting a license or sharing the recliner on the sofa etc. I paid the bills, I did the shopping, I cleaned the house and I gave him and his friends rides. If I got upset he said it was my fault because "I didn't ask nicely" or because "I got mad and if I am mad than he tends to withdraw" or "I needed to ask while flirting"... I tried all of these things but there was always some new way and it usually ended up with me apologizing and doing what he wanted. I tried to talk to him over and over and finally was getting depressed and had to leave.
Now she has been with him for a week and seems so happy with him. I tried everything to make it work with him. To get him to see how he was treating me and to make it work.... and now she thinks "he is all that" and I wanted that with him... I feel sad and jealous that she gets "the good him".... I mean can he just change and suddenly treat her right?