Such a confusing Mess...

[Hawk1216]

Hi all,

Well, this is probably one of the literally most confusing messes I've heard of ever in a relationship. (At least in my short time.)

First off, I am 18, she is 15. We met at karate about 5 months ago, I asked her out about a month after I met her, and she declined saying 'we were best as friends'. (Yea yea, the old nice putdown.) Since then, we have become nearly best friends, which is great. But about a month ago, we had a further discussion on the topic of going to more than friends, which ended in her crying basically for over a week, and ending up sending me an e-mail saying 'Right now, you are nothing more than a friend to me, maybe something will develop later.' And we ended as that basically I won't ever say anything about moving it forward, I told her she had to do it if she ever wanted it to. (For my ease of mind.)

It hurt, obviously, because I care a lot for her, but I figured, meh, it happens, whatever. Here is where it is becoming odd...

Last time I saw her, we were in a group setting, and everything seemed relatively normal. But then, the oddest thing happened. She went around to my back and bit me on the neck. Now obviously, I found it as a major turn-on, but here is what makes it hard. It was right in front of her boyfriend, whom she has been seeing for about a month. After the biting incident subsided, about 2 hours later, I noticed her staring at me. I looked back, and she just stared, her eyes turned relatively glossy and soft, and just sat there for about 40 seconds till someone tapped her on the shoulder. I think me and her were the only ones that noticed it, as no one else seemed to respond. I'm still trying to figure that out.

Tonight...
She was acting agitated tonight, but not too bad, so we started just joking around as we always do, and she said something about Not telling me anything ever again, and I said "You know can't resist me. lol." and she started this HUGE like, defensive rush, was saying how she can't believe I said that, and "why the hell do you think i am so dependant on you?", also "making it seem like i need you to live and i have to tell u every lil thing that goes on in my life to live", and for the grand finale, "i dont think u have any reason to say that i am dependant on u and to think i am a pathetic lil girl that needs u to live cuz I am not..." And then she ended the conversation.

Remember, all that from a simple phrase, nothing else, "You can't resist me. lol."

Now on to later tonight when she re-visited (While she is ignoring everything else that was said tonight)... On the online messenger thing, she for some reason felt the need to enter her sister's messenger account, and begin chatting to me as if it was her sister. (Even though she told me she was gone and that it was her.)

Now obviously, at first glance, this would just be immature horsing around, but what she said is what confuses me.

It basically consisted of her putting herself down, (As if her sister was saying it) and saying things like she was an alcoholic, drug addict, etc. (Just normal horsing around I would guess.) but here comes the wierd part...

She knew that we made a pact not to mention more than friend things, but she did anyways. She said...

"just wait til she makes a move on you." and "i can see that you care bout her a great deal", and "when she showed me her new girly outfit
she kept asking me what u would think about it", "So has she slept with you?", "so has she made a move on you?!?!", "She is going to wear the new girly outfit tuesday for you."

Even though she knows that I know that it is her, she continues to say things that we've blatently tried to avoid for months; maybe she is getting out the things she wants to push that she can't say under her own persona? What do you guys think, please avoid from saying she is crazy, I already know she is, but I love her, and always will even if she is insane.

So do you think she is trying to maybe break the friend barrier? (And possibly be breaking up with her BF)

Or is she just horsing around with my emotions?

I'm so confused, I wish I didn't care for her so much.

[MaRTiaL RaGe]

Well, I can tell you right now that she's defenitely THOUGHT about breaking that barrier. It depends now on what you want to do, and how you do it.

[mhussain]

how DO u know it wasnt her sister? are u sure?

if u r right then man, if thisnt isnt trying to break the barrier than get ur eyes checked and ur mind as well

best of luck

Hussain

[Hawk1216]

how DO u know it wasnt her sister? are u sure?

if u r right then man, if thisnt isnt trying to break the barrier than get ur eyes checked and ur mind as well

best of luck

Hussain

100% sure it wasn't her sister, I know her sister almost as well as her anyways, and she just wouldn't say things like that. No question in my mind.

Now I am trying to figure out what to do, if you guys are correct. I don't want to say anything per our agreement, but, at the same time, I don't want her to give up and lose the courage to break the barrier.

*sigh*
Thanks for the input so much,
Hawk