is it just me?

[joewall]

hi all,
i'm stuck in a place where i'm confused and dont know whats what's when it comes to if my girlfriend is cheating, stuff happens sometimes thats seems abit iffy , like her coming back from a night out telling me see lost her keys but then a few days later she collected them off a friend who had them but left them at a guys place, the reason she gave for her keys being left at a guys place was that she was drunk and dropped her bag and her friend picked up the keys and took it by mistake, her friend then went back to this guys and the keys dropped out there, I have thought about why she would tell me where the key was if she was cheating she could have just told me that her friend had it, while on my computer i came across a search for a restaurant me and her never been to, i asked her about it and her answer was that she was just looking for somewhere new for us to go but she never mentioned it to me before, she gets touchy over little questions if asked, her friends are somewhat awkward about me. of late she has seem to be more tired when it comes to having sex or if we do theres been a few new things she has done but her reason is she no longer wants to be shy around me, she dont buy nice underwear for me like she used to, at times she seems distance but others really nice to the point of it seeming fake. i have told her i think she is cheating and explain things to her that makes me think that, ive told her that is she is cheating for her to end because ill be happier knowing that i'm not building my life on a lie, she tells me that she loves me, see me in her future wants to go travelling with me but to me this feels like she is just saying things to make me happy. weekend she invited me out with her friends to 'show me' off to her friends but during the night she disappeared for say 15mins leaving me on my own around a group of people i didnt really know and who where kind of awkward around me, she said she went to the toilet and then quickly went out for a fag, when i said i was going home she stopped me, am i just looking into things? ive never really been closed to anyone and think maybe im just looking for a reason not to be close to her but i cant shake that she feeling that she is cheating. ive also told her i want to end the relationship because i think she is cheating and she told me that she dont want to end it, she wants to be with me.

[michelle23]

Go to her friend-look her in the eye and ask her to tell you the truth-did your gf cheat on you? Tell her you wont tell it was her who told you but you need to know. Us girls find it hard to lie to someones face especially if your genuine so ask her friend who gave her back her keys. That may be the easiest way for you to get the truth or get a lie detector test.

If you dont trust her-you need to break up with her

[joewall]

Go to her friend-look her in the eye and ask her to tell you the truth-did your gf cheat on you? Tell her you wont tell it was her who told you but you need to know. Us girls find it hard to lie to someones face especially if your genuine so ask her friend who gave her back her keys. That may be the easiest way for you to get the truth or get a lie detector test.

If you dont trust her-you need to break up with her

i have asked her friend and she told me that i'm being paranoid and that she thinks i'm cheating because i'm asking. and the story of how the key was left at the place was because she did something embarrassing and had to leave asap and stuff dropped out her bag.

i have told her i dont trust her and think we should break up because there is no trust but she replied with that she's happy and that she thought i was too and that she feels im just looking for a reason to end and she says she wants to do what it takes to gain my trust :/

[michelle23]

Once the trust is gone its gone. You will always have doubts over this unless she does a lie detector test and proves she is telling the truth.

How did she react when you asked her? Did she look you in the eye and say she hasnt cheated? Did she look upset that you accused her? Did she get defensive or angry or accuse you of cheating?

Has she been acting differently since that night?