What do you think of....?

**Love'sReject** · 27-03-13, 01:08 PM

..going out with someone you're not attracted to because you know they like you and you can't find anyone else?

**basilandthyme** · 27-03-13, 04:41 PM

I've been out with a couple of guys who I wasn't attracted to. It wasn't so much because I couldn't find anyone else, but more about not being good at saying "no". Neither ended well. When one put his arm around me, I ducked away. The other guy dropped me home after the date and I couldn't get away quick enough. I was a teenager in both cases.

Oh, wait...there was another guy too - we went to see a band with his friends....I spent the date talking to his best mate. Ohhh....so awful of me. Glad I'm not a teen anymore.

I can't vote in the poll because I didn't date them out of desperation.

**searock** · 27-03-13, 05:12 PM

It's not "disgusting", it's just harmful for the person who likes you and in the end pointless for you (confidence boost won't last long and guilt and self-deprecation will jump in).

So, don't do it.

**fearoflove** · 27-03-13, 08:56 PM

I think it is a terrible thing to do and also takes the enjoyment out of dating.

**pcmaster** · 27-03-13, 09:23 PM

Should be ok as long as you are clear with your intentions.

**bearz** · 27-03-13, 10:27 PM

Considering the fact that the girl actually likes you this seems wrong. You are just going to mess with her.

If this was a complete stranger I would say it's ok.

**Rowen** · 28-03-13, 02:17 AM

Originally Posted by Love'sReject

..going out with someone you're not attracted to because you know they like you and you can't find anyone else?

Depends on what sort of attraction we're talking about, LR... If you're not physically attracted and giving them the chance because they have a big heart, that's fine because you're still testing the waters to see what's there. However, if you're not attracted to them on a personality level or are not attracted on either level, that's the definition of settling, my friend.

But assess why you're going out with them. Don't just do it because you can't find someone else. That's just mean and hurtful because you're leading them to believe you're feeling something that you don't.

**pcmaster** · 28-03-13, 02:55 AM

One date dont mean anything however. Its always a test. Just make sure you say what you think about them in the end of the date wether its positive or neutral feelings.

You might dont like person before the date but like them after. Or vice versa.

Remember once I asked the girl I like to the date and after few hours found out that she is quiet nervous, not interesting person basicaly. We were both 15een. After date we said bye and I never asked her out again. After half a year I visited her brother(friend) and find out that her neighboors(she lived in the country side) and family think that we are officialy together. That was a bit wierd, how little some people need to be caried away by a dreams.

**Love'sReject** · 29-03-13, 05:14 AM

Interesting points..haven't responded because I've been so sick..

This was just a hypothetical, not something I am contemplating or have the power to do.

**Cerby** · 29-03-13, 06:25 AM

Whatever gets you laid. And by "you", I mean YOU LR. Some don't need to play games with those who might actually be interested...but for a virgin like yourself, you need to take all the chances you can.

**BlueMoonSal** · 01-05-13, 01:10 PM

Well maybe in time, sparks might start developing.

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