Hey I'm a teenage Indian girl in high school and I have strict parents. Recently, I have been getting really close to one of my best guy friends and I know that he likes me and will ask me out soon. He would be my first boyfriend, and my parents and I have never really talked about boys or dating, but I really like him too and I don't want to ruin what we have. I've been thinking of ways to talk to my parents about this situation if/when he asks me out.
1. I'm going to tell them that he asked me out and that I really like him, and I greatly value their opinion which is why I don't want to reply without getting their approval.
2. I'll tell them that I understand that I'm not a normal American girl and that my Indian culture is very different, but my life has always been a mixture of both. I can also say that dating as become much more common among teenagers and those in young 20s in India as well. It shows that both cultures are blending. I can also explain that those dating in India are even more serious than we are which leads me to
3. the fact that to our group of people in relationships, dating is more about hanging out and spending time with a person you really like and enjoy being with. Both me and the guy I like understand that we aren't probably going to get married or anything. We really just like being with each other. Also we wont really be completely alone; just in groups of couples.
4. That also ties in with the fact that my parents are worried about me being alone with a boy. I can use the group thing plus the fact that I know and deeply value the trust my parents have in me to prove that I'll be on my best behavior. I'll explain this boy's qualities and ask them to meet him and get to know him before they let us date each other. He is always polite and is from a military family, so even when he does try to be funny or "normal' he always shows discipline and a sense of respect. I think he's the type of person my parents would like.
5. My biggest point will be that I know that my priorites are good grades, good SATs, good college , and eventually a good and stable future. I'll emphasize that no matter what, these priorities will be first and that I understand it and will put that above going to games or hanging out with this guy. I'll also explain that he is almost as dedicated as me about doing good in school and in life and in addition to that being good at soccer. WE understand each other well and so he'll understand if I cant spend time with him or hang out because of my school priorities and vice versa.
6. I'll wrap it up by saying how I really do want to have a chance to make this all work and that I really want my parents to meet him before we do anything.
Its long-winded I know, but is there anything else I should or shouldn't say to help me persuade my parents into letting me date this guy? They are rather strict Indian people, but they have always been cool with me going to late parties and such. IS there anything else they could argue with? Please help me think.