Do I have a chance with him?

[Princess Kiara]

Not be understanding toward another person's feelings, likes, and dislikes. No matter how different they might be from my own.
And if that person is special to me, why, I'd try to share some of their likes, within reasonable limits, of course you know, as far as music, colors, pets, clothing, etc. Just not...other things...nor totally changing myself for someone else. Anything I can do to please them...him...while still being me.

[toknow]

The secret to getting guys is thinking like them....they like a girl that really "gets them" for example learn to enjoy porn and don't nag at them.

LOL...That's gotta be one of the most foolish things I've ever heard.

Learn to enjoy porn? Learn to screw up your relationship?

If you think porn is helping your "relationship", you are in something, but it's not a relationship. Women who are ok with their boyfriend watching porn are completely clueless.

Kiara, your acting not interested with him would be a hard thing to do because your initiating conversation with him, sending him drawings shows interest. What you need
is to build a unique connection with him. On a deeper level. It seems though, you should never give him the vibe it's completely a friendship and nothing more, because if you gets stuck
in the friendzone, it's hard to think of you as something more. I'm not saying act like his girlfriend, just don't act like a complete friend. But, I don't think you'll need to worry about this too much I think you'll naturally act appropriately, just giving you a heads up, so you are aware of this before he puts you in the friendzone.

[Princess Kiara]

Here's the thing, though: He needs to chase me, so to speak, to create the image that I'm desirable so that he can feel that he has won something valuable, right? That's what my mom says at least. Perhaps I can, I don't know, show interest but not in a romantic way, more in a friendly way but not completely...I don't know. Maybe just act friendly, no more, but do my best to be attractive without making it obvious? Maybe "play the innocent girl", which I know that in many ways I still am (and I know maybe I should know more stuff about the world, but...do guys like that?)? What would you suggest?
Ah, nu știu, nu știu nimic...*sigh*

[toknow]

Playing games works, but only to a point. The thing is, if a guy is interested he is interested, if he is not he is not. You have to build a special bond with him, a good example of what I'm trying to say is an excerpt from Jane Ayre, where he talks about a string tied to his heart. You want him ultimately to feel like he can't lose that bond between the two of you.

[Princess Kiara]

I know that, of course. And I'm not going to keep chasing him if he's not interested. It all boils down to one thing, I guess: respect. If he doesn't want me I'll back off.
Because of this reason, I'll have only one chance. That is why the first meeting is so crucial to me, and why I'm thinking about it two years in advance.
Do you think it might be possible to get any ideas about what he might like or dislike from photographs of him, or from his music videos?
Also, how do I go about creating a strong bond with a famous guy? That must be really tough...but I refuse to give up!

[toknow]

He has to get to know you before he decides if he is interested or not. If he gets to know your heart and he is not interested, then you know you're with the wrong person.

If he writes his lyrics then you can learn some about him from his songs, but a lot of times the songs don't relate to the singer, they just sing what most girls want to hear because that's what keeps the money coming.

I want to help you, but I want you to be aware, and you have to keep in mind he might not turn out the person you though he was, then again he might be exactly what you want. You have to be prepared for an outcome like this, so you will not be taken off guard. So the ultimate goal here is for you to get to know him on a personal level.

The easier way to create a strong bond with a famous guy is to become famous yourself. It get's much easier from that point on, because you'll have access to his world. And at that point your chances increase greatly because of the fewer number of girls in that "world"

[Princess Kiara]

He has to get to know you before he decides if he is interested or not. If he gets to know your heart and he is not interested, then you know you're with the wrong person.

If he writes his lyrics then you can learn some about him from his songs, but a lot of times the songs don't relate to the singer, they just sing what most girls want to hear because that's what keeps the money coming.

I want to help you, but I want you to be aware, and you have to keep in mind he might not turn out the person you though he was, then again he might be exactly what you want. You have to be prepared for an outcome like this, so you will not be taken off guard. So the ultimate goal here is for you to get to know him on a personal level.

The easier way to create a strong bond with a famous guy is to become famous yourself.

I will keep in mind what you have said, toknow, and I know that you are right, of course. Thank you so much for your help!
I am writing a novel... I've been told by many, including a former English teacher, that I have a certain skill with writing...I don't think it's all that good, really I'm writing just for pleasure and it's grown to 46 pages due to my interest in "seeing what happens next" in my own story. LOL how weird is that? But I can't stop writing, now, because I'm so into the story. I don't think it'd be down a guy's line of interests, though. It's a story of a unicorn colt captured by King Dalkien's knights and raised by Lily, the royal stable girl, in a medieval setting, while the inhabitants of the land live in terror of a mysterious entity that takes people and animals, skins them alive and drains their bodies of all blood. XD I still can't decide whether the colt and Lily should later help defend the kingdom of Nukaskia against the invaders from the south or whether they should restore the shattered peace between the black unicorns and the white ones in the Cloud Forests. I'm leaning toward the former...ahh, never mind XD
But I do want to publish it sometime soon. I know it probably won't be an instant classic but if it's accepted I could really use some money for my trip to Romania.

Here's the finished horse, BTW! Finally

[Princess Kiara]

Whoops, can't edit any more. Arsenie's PR girl just told me she doesn't know if he likes horses but knows for sure that he likes dogs and cats. When I spoke to him he made it clear that he doesn't like cats as much as dogs. I know he has a pet Maltese they have a few pictures of him with his dog on his site. From the pink collar I'd guess it's a female. It's only too bad that dog is too furry for me to be able to draw her with pastels.
Any particular breed that might seem 'romantic' without being too hairy?
Also, I found his personal page on Facebook! I had to fight myself to keep from immediately sending him a friend request. I have nothing I want to hide on my profile, and I know some fans have chatted with him in this way, but I wonder...wouldn't friending him and/or asking him for a few minutes of one-on-one chat time seem too much like what the herd does? But then...how to keep in contact? I'm all confused...any advice here, please?
Thanks again to everyone!

[toknow]

Kiara, facebook would probably a good thing, but would he find out your age from that? He can quickly put you in the little-sister zone if he finds out your age. It would be very hard to get out from there.

[TablesandChairs]

Tu ai 15 ani, el are 29 - a diferenta prea mare. Pentru el, tu esti un copil.

I've said it in Romanian so you can hear it in two languages - you're 15, he's 29. You're just an infatuated child to him. Unless there's something wrong with him, he wouldn't give it a serious thought. Also, it's impossible to 'love' someone you have not met, nor spent time any significant time with. You're a clever girl so you know it's very common for teenage girls to become obsessed with pop stars etc - it's happened since forever. Remember the girls fainting at the Beatles' concerts back in the day? It's the reason bands/singers who appeal to teenage girls make big $$.

You need to calm down. But if it makes you happy, try anyway. Draw him a magical unicorn or something.

[Wakeup]

Why don't you draw him a naked picture of yourself, but show it to your mother first to make sure you got your eyes right. O.o

[smackie9]

My god I just wasted 2 mins reading this last page....."unsubscribe"

[Princess Kiara]

@toknow: My Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/PrintesaDinDragostea (the link means Princess of Love in Romanian ;-) )
XD I've tried to hide my age; do you see anything here that might reveal it to him? I've taken pains to remove all reference to it, I have only one picture of myself which I would remove before sending him a friend request...Maybe my having a bunch of high-school-age "friends" might reveal it...? but then anyway four of my friends are adults XD, one I don't know personally (she's a Romanian teenager or young adult living in Switzerland), one's my dad, one's one of my teachers who is also one of my best RL friends, one's my uncle, my requests to another teacher and to my mom are pending...

@Wakeup--I don't do naked pictures!!! Of anyone! Besides how is he going to be impressed if I try to act just like the herd? I don't want him to like me for my body, but for who I am, if he does like me at all!

@TablesandChairs--Vorbiți romanește!? Super! E o limba frumos, și îmi place foarte mult...Mă bucur să te cunosc! Mă cheamă Gabby, dar mi poți să spune Kiara ;-) De unde ești? Nu ești în Mexic? ;D
Mulțumesc mult pentru răspuns tă în limba română!
Știu ca sunt numai un copil pentru el, dar de ce nu pot să se strădui? Am un vis foarte frumos și nu o pot uita...Și dacă nu se poate, atunci voi să învăț mult de lucrurile oricum...nu e așa?
Spun bine? XD
Pe curând!

[Wakeup]

mordez-moi littl flânent

[Princess Kiara]

I understood most of that even though I don't know French. XD
"Bite me little {didn't get that}"
If this is revenge for my having posted in Romanian, I suppose that's fair enough (even though I actually loved it, LOL) Here's my translation. Rest assured no offense was meant.
Thank you for teaching me three new French words. XD

You speak Romanian!? Super! It's a beautiful language, and I like it a lot...Glad to meet you! My name is Gabby, but you can call me Kiara ;-) Where are you from? You're not in Mexico? ;D
Thanks a lot for your reply in Romanian!
I know I'm just a kid to him, but why can't I try? I have a very beautiful dream and I cannot forget it...And if it's not possible, then I'm going to learn many things anyway...isn't that so?
Did I say that right? XD
Later!

By the way, your telling me to grow up...you wouldn't want me to miss out on what little I have left of my youth, would you? Or are you telling me I should come back and post in a few decades when I'm old and gray and "grown up" enough for you?
Sorry, just couldn't resist saying that