preparing for the worse

[meloveulongtime]

I know you should prepare for the worse but what happened to having faith that things will work for the best? Sometimes when you're so consumed with planning for the worse you become consumed with all the negative insecure thoughts that often will draw you to make the negative results without realizing it. Its as though you keep telling yourself love doesn't exist or no one could love you.... Of course you won't find it because you don't allow yourself to be lovedand feel love... I'm no expert. Deep down I am a hopeless romantic in love but I still believe someday I will and can find true love. Open up!!! And trust that person does love you. Yeeeesh!

[Kromat83]

No one said it would be easy, it's just your forcing it, instead of letting it happen.
Like i say, change your environment, if something isn't working.

You make it sound like something is wrong with you, maybe it takes longer for others.

I am a late bloomer too, just live the way you have been, the more you think about it,
the worser you will be in the long run.

Are people not giving you a chance ? do you have doubts ?

Try new activities, to find people you normally would not.

Just relax, you have thought about this quite often lately.
You seemed to be focused on 2 guys, what happened to that mentality ?

[pcmaster]

Its been only a short while since you started to concentrate on guys so for your expierience level things are understandable. Keep going and in few years you can find that one.

[YoungCosmo]

A lot of lives are crushed and grinded down by reality. Things don't turn out well for them in spite of hoping against no hope..You should read Steinbeck.

[Rowen]

I think she's right but that her post can be taken in different contexts. There are cases of people who are overly cautious and kill things before they get a chance to occur, but then there are those who make the same mistakes again. That's why it's best to balance things out- learn to recognize but not searching strictly for signs that the relationship will fail, if that makes sense.