Hello
I’m 23 and goes to university. I have fallen in love with a guy, but I haven’t dared to act on it. Why? Because he is my ”professor”…
But I have thought that maybe after the exams it would be all right to make contact?
It is not weird in any way actually, he is only sex years older than me and it is definitely not a ”teacher-thing”. It’s a very small class and I don’t feel like he different than me in that sense. Just plain and simply like him. I like his shyness. He is this kind of nerdy guy that has strange humor and is really clumsy. I think he likes me too, at least to a certain degree. He always flushes when I’m asking about something, and looks a lot at me (but tries to hide it). But he is defiantly not a ladies man and I am pretty certain he have never had a girlfriend even.
It is not forbidden to date at the university I’m at. But I’m still uncertain on how to handle this. I’m not afraid to make a fool of my self (anyway I’m not getting him as a teacher in other classes), I just have to act on this!
I have two ideas:
1: write an e-mail to him, ask about class-subject (he told me a lot about this work he is doing right now, and I could for example begin there) and then maybe ask if he wants to have a discussion over a coffee.
2: I could text him (I have his number because he recommended some books he thought I might like) and be more straight-forward. I could just write that I really enjoyed his class and then ask if he wants to go out for an ice cream or something.
Do you have any thoughts?
I will be very grateful to any comments because I do not trust my own judgment right now, because I feel so strongly for him.