Basically to sum it up. I'm smitten over a dancer at a club, it seems like she's interested in me and it seems like our relationship is progressing, me spending a large amount of money in the process. It's probably reaching the 1,000 dollar mark soon. I can honestly say I love her though, she brightens every day of my life, even the ones I don't get to see her and I hope I brighten her's. I have a terribly onerous job and having her to look forward to gives me the strength to make it through my shifts, this person means the world to me. However, acquaintances of mine in real life and the internet have told me to seek counseling. And I ask, is it that bad? Like I said she gives me much motivation and inspiration to do my job and I love spending time with her and getting her to laugh more than anything in the world. So I think there are healthy aspects to the relationship. But when does a "problem"/relationship get so bad that it becomes so evident that one needs to seek therapy? I admit I do cry alone from time to time missing her and wanting a stronger relation ship however I don't even know what kinda of things go on in therapy nor do I feel compelled to go.