Rebound relationships? Do they work or not?

[fklove]

Okay, so this is something that is occuring right now in my life, and i really need to know if rebound relationships work or not, i know its different for most of the people but like, is it possible to forget someone you love by dating someone else? Like, just like that?

Please post your serious opinions and if you think rebound relationships will erase your pain or only delay it

[basilandthyme]

The only way that dating a new person would make you forget the one you love is if the new person is WAY better. If by comparison one realises that the old relationship was really crap.

However, the thing which really bothers me is seeing someone being used as a salve to try and recover from a broken heart. If someone is using you this way, then you deserve way better. And if you are using someone else, then stop it.

[Rowen]

The definition of a rebound:

Rebound: (adj) used to describe a relationship that holds no meaning other than to fill the void of an ex's absence


^ That says it all. They don't work. The person is simply a teddy bear until they get over their ex.

[michelle23]

in my experience they dont work at all. if your heart still belongs to your ex and your grieving the loss-you are emotionally unavailable until you have fully healed.

all youll end up doing is making some poor girl feel as awful as you feel noe which really isnt fair

[fklove]

I agree with everything said here, its just that my ex is with someone, she kissed him yet she said she didnt love him last week.. idk now.

I'd never get a rebound while with someone on my mind. Anyway, her rebound knows that she still thinks of me and likes me yet he doesnt mind, he says he understands. By what i see, he just wants sex and doesnt seem to want anything serious.

He'll get it, she's really dumb lol.

[michelle23]

Stop thinking about her and her new man. Its not healthy. focus on healing and on moving on

[fklove]

Yes i know, i dont love her anymore but i think i have an obsession with her and her new bf, like it doesnt stop crossing my mind.

its temporary doe.

btw, she keeps saying how much better he is than me, yet they only talk for 2/3 weeks.

[michelle23]

Why are you still talking to her? Cut all contact with her and try to put her and him out of your mind. It will take time but it will be a lot easier if you dont see her or spend any time with her. Block her or facebook also and other social networking sites and block her from your phone or change your number

[michelle23]

Plus she sounds like a nasty selfish b**ch saying all that crap. Shes just trying to hurt you. Ignore her

[fklove]

There is no contact at all, i dont talk to her for a week, i did the biggest mistake ever, i showed how weak i was and apologized for everything, but i didnt talk to her plus ignored her all week, now shes gone and i have no way of contacting her, im glad itslike this.

The thing is, after the first days i was alright, but now i cant get off my mind that shes with someone else and that person replaced me, i feel like crap tbh.

[michelle23]

Its normal to feel that way but it will just take time. Try to stay busy and surround yourself with people who care

[fklove]

I've been doing that, it's not working though...

She crosses my mind ALL THE TIME, i mean, sometimes i can be like 5mins or 10 without her crossing my mind but she always comes across later, always. I feel like im jailed.

Anyway, as long as she's away its not that bad, because if she comes back and i have contact with her i will go right back from where i started, she deleted all her social networks, im glad because i felt so so so so tempted to check them.

edit: The thought that i might have an obsession for her scares me, i feel like a sick person or something... -_-

[michelle23]

Its just grief. You just have to take it one day at a time. Its normal how you are feeling now. Just look after yourself it will get easier

[fklove]

I'll try, thank you.