Originally Posted by
Miseryx3company
Ok well as the title states, help, I'm falling in love with a married man and don't know what to do.
No you're not in love with him. You're LUSTING after him. You can't "love" someone who does nothing with you except let you blow him.
Can you even imangine a life with a guy that would do what he's doing to his wife. What do you suppose his actual character is like? Now, unfortunately you'ved dropped all your own personal boundaries and you've got the same anti-social character as him.
Start looking for another job. Stop spending alone time with him. Get yourself organized and then break up with your boyfriend of a gazzillion years and go out and experiment with single men for a while. Key word being SINGLE.
He's using you for the oral or whatever else he's getting from you and ****ing him once won't wash him out of your system. Zero contact with him and concentrating on being a person with personal boundaries that you won't cross or let anyone else cross WILL get you over your "limerence." Google "Limerence" and educate yourself in what you're in because IT'S NOT LOVE.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion