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    Marriage Question

    Hey guys im new here just started up. But i was wondering, what do you think about marrying your high school sweetheart. Is it to overated or do you think it will last? Most my friends say high school relationships are overrated and we will never make it. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year and we are so much in love and we want to get married to each other in a few years. I just wanted to know your guys thoughts!!

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    If you guys are thinking of getting married in a few years then there's no need to be worried about it now.

    And if you are as in love then as much as you are now then happy days!

    If you were to say that you wanted to get married next week then, sure, I could see how your friends might tell you it wouldn't work - it's a different world after high school and who knows what will happen (I'm assuming you're still in high school?). Your relationship will have to fight whatever the big bad world has to throw at you - life ain't easy like in school, both you and ya boyfriend will mostly likely have to make decisions about what you want (work, living arrangements, love) - and these decisions could make or brake a relationship depending if you do or don't both want the same things.

    Now I'm not saying it's all doom and gloom, it's just that things change over time. But if your mutual love is still as strong in a few years like it is now, then that is your que to seal it with marriage and live happily ever after...

    And make sure you invite all your high school friends to the wedding...

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    Quote Originally Posted by darinsbabe_55
    what do you think about marrying your high school sweetheart.
    No objections here. It might be early to marry in high school but there is nothing wrong with it being with the person from highschool.
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    It's true High School relationship's usually don't last or make it, but they are FAR from over rated, infact they are the building curve to knowing who you are, and what you want out of life.

    My High School sweetheart and I were together for 2 years, had the same plans, along with other plans. However, things change and in those days the changes are drastic. Don't be fearful though, just enjoy the moment and the time you have together. Just let life play itself out and you'll know soon enough.


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    Hey thanks guys. Well we are planning on getting married in like 5 years when we are both out of college and he has a job. Im a high school senior going to graduate in 21 days (thank god!!!) and he is a freshman in college. So we are in love but we do get in fights but we always end up getting over 5 minutes after the fight. I mean yes I know it might not work out but I just wanted to know some other points of view because my friends are jealous because they dont have boyfriends and I spend a lot of time with my boyfriend. But thanks a lot guys helps a lot with understanding what others think!!

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    five years is a long time..... wait and watch and hope for the best.

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    darinsbabe----I think it's sweet to marry someone you know from school. BUT....wait a few years after graduation, before walking down the aisle. Get a job, save some cash, before marrying. Money (and the lack of it) always seems to cause fights.

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    Quote Originally Posted by darinsbabe_55
    Hey guys im new here just started up. But i was wondering, what do you think about marrying your high school sweetheart. Is it to overated or do you think it will last? Most my friends say high school relationships are overrated and we will never make it. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year and we are so much in love and we want to get married to each other in a few years. I just wanted to know your guys thoughts!!

    Priscilla

    Pricilla, I don’t think there's anything wrong with marrying your high school sweet heart.
    It's great that you're going to wait a few years before getting married. A persons wants and needs change with time, you may find that yours do.

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    *completely agrees with danny_b*

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    Hmm

    I married my high school sweetheart 25 years ago....(hmm my age is showing here).
    What I can tell you is this, there are no real guarantees in life especially when it comes to love. You just do the best you can. My marriage has been
    a series of ups and downs, and yes there were points where we nearly threw in the towel. But here we are still married, and yes still in love (sort of....lol).

    My suggestion is to wait a little, live with each other for a year or more, and if you don't end up killing each other then by all means do it.

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    i don't think there's anything 'wrong' with marrying your high school sweetheart if your relationship is stable and you think it can go the distance.

    However, I was in your situation too. I was with my hs sweetheart for 5 yrs, and after being together a year, we were already making marriage plans. Luckily they never followed through. People change quite a bit in the first few years following hs. My advice to you is to wait a couple of years before thinking about it. It's a major life decision. They say it takes about 3 yrs to really know someone, and while that may not always be true for everyone, I've been in two 3yr+ relationships and found that to be quite accurate.

    Do what you think is best for your situation, and I'm sure everything will work out for you.

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