Should I take the hint and forget him?

[izzybells]

Does it sound like I should forget about him now?

Hi,
My boyfriend and I study in the same city, but seeing as uni's over until September, we both had to go home. We live at least 700 miles away from one another, which could explain why things are getting tricky. We both always found it really difficult to express our feelings and were never big on texting and all the rest, but now it's getting ridiculous. I haven't seen him since last weekend and, at first, we were kinda keeping in touch. However, he stopped texting me and I refuse to text him first either.

He texted me on Saturday (after three days) to ask whether I'm watching the football match I said I'd watch. I texted him back saying 'yes, my baby's kicking **** as usual' - (baby as in my favourite footballer). I texted him the next day asking how he was etc. He replied saying he was alright, which was followed by my asking him what he was getting up to that night. He never replied. It's been two days and nothing.

We've been together for half a year and we were talking (a week ago) about meeting in June. Should I just forget this relationship and move on? It sounds like it's not going to work. I'm not exactly the kind of person to chase a guy and have previously pondered over breaking up with him for the sake of being single and not having to worry over such trivialities.

Should I text him now and break up?

Thanks in advance.

[stev123]

you should confront him first about it, perhaps there something he isn't saying or he is genuinely not interested - either way it wouldn't hurt to confront him. But that kind of behaviour is very careless, even if he was playing you around for sex he would still have the decency to reply to your texts. It's your call to end the relationship, but I would see whats up with him, if it doesn't satisfy you then break it.

[basilandthyme]

You sound as though you couldn't give a toss whether you are with him or not. So, if that's the case....break up.

However, if you actually love him and want to make it work, the two of you need to communicate. Let him know that you really miss hearing from him. Talk with him and find a way to move forward.

That being said, you also sound like you're playing your share of games. What's up with "I'm not exactly the kind of person to chase a guy" and your refusal to text first? This isn't the first days of dating where you're wanting him to chase you.....this is a relationship and you both need to make an effort. Sure, if you're making 75% of effort all the time, then it's time to bail.....but you've got your knickers in a knot because he didn't reply to ONE text. This is just crazy and stubborn on your part.

Let us know if you really care about this relationship.

[VerticalMoon]

Maybe he was tired and accidentally deleted your last message or forgot to hit send on his. I would just text him again. No biggie.

If you do decide to break up with him, make sure you call him on the phone to do it. Even it means have to pay for a long-distance call. Breaking up with somebody you've been seeing for six months over text is cruel.

[smackie9]

Have the "talk" with him. No sense in sitting there wondering or analyzing if and when he texts you....I think he is thinking what you are thinking but doesn't know how to approach you, so you need to step up and make the first move. Getting this settled will be a sigh of relief no matter what you two decide.

[smackie9]

***And what I mean by "talk" is exactly that...call him and talk to him. VerticalMoon is right, it's pretty lame ass to do anything like this over text.

[UnderTheMoon]

I would have to say that you should calmly think it over. If you have your doubts then go ahead and break up. You will save both of yourselves the frustration and extra hurt by holding onto something that isn't there. It sounds to me like you don't even really have a friendship going with him which is always important. I will say this, I may be single but some of my ex's keep in touch with me once in a while because we held a mutual respect. Sometimes when it just pans itself like this, that's all you have left is respect as long as it's understood as to why.

[michelle23]

Its your call OP. It sounds like you just want out and if that is the case-ring him and end it in a decent way. If you would like to make it work-ring him and ask him what is going on-why have you not been communicating with each other-does he want out?