Originally Posted by
Indestructible
Last summer, I hit it off with a girl better than I've ever "hit it off" with anyone. The communication was great, we had a ton of stuff in common, we both had the uncanny ability of being able to make each laugh and smile all the time. I was happy and confident around her. I was never a "door mat" nor was I "puppy dog"-like to her in any way. There was enough of an emotional distance where I wasn't in the "friend zone". It was pretty much the perfect storm, exactly what one would hope for as they're building up a potential love interest. But when I asked her out, she said no
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I just don't understand what went wrong. I mean, I know I'll never be the "hottest" guy or the "coolest" guy, or whatever, but I always thought that if I could find a nice smart girl that I have a lot in common with and get along with really well, that that's all that would matter. Then, the one time, the one time, I finally find that, I'm still not "good enough" for her. It still bugs me, and I just can't understand, and I can't get past it. Can you ladies help me understand?
While it sounds like you had a great friendship going on, it doesn't sound like the two of you had any chemistry. Did you flirt enough to get some chemistry happening?
If not, this is possibly where it went wrong. While I can't speak for all women, I would be unlikely to accept a date if there was no sexual tension happening.
Never regret anything that has happened in your life. It cannot be changed, forgotten or undone. So, take it as a lesson learned and move on.