Confused and unsure what to do

[Brielle597]

I started to see this guy in February and we really hit it off. We spent a lot of time together and got along really well. He has commitment issues however due to past relationships. I mean I've had shitty relationships too but I always try to go into new relationships with a fresh mindset. Anyways. About a month ago out of the blue he told me that he wants to be free and wild this coming summer. And I took that as he wants to sleep with whoever whenever. Let me point out that he did have a bit if a reputation in the small town that we live in. Anyways, he also said that he saw me becoming attached and he was too so he thought it was better to end it now rather than later which really made no sense to me.
So we stopped hanging out. More recently though we hung out again an spent the weekend together just enjoying each others company. I'm just confused because I feel as if he is scared to commit because of previous relationships. He's trying to stop things between us that is so natural and easy. I just don't know what to do at this point. Any advice?

[jbruced]

Some simple advice, be clear about what you are looking for in a relationship. If you just want to have fun, then it's okay to spend time randomly with men, in physical relations. on the other hand if you are looking for a man that is exclusive with you then it is best to insist on a man being committed to you. The reputation that you build in the town that you live will follow you from man to man. Women talk about men and men talk about women. To be respected by men is to insist on committed relationships each time and delay the physical aspects until you are sure that the man is committed to being with you exclusively. Decide now what you want from a man, if a long term relationship leading into marriage is what you want then it is best to let men know upfront that you are only accepting real, loving, and supported relationships with men.
Teach men how you want to be treated, and your life with be more clear and upfront. Best wishes, jb

[VerticalMoon]

If he was interested in finding a steady relationship, he'd be trying to work on his commitment issues. He's not. It seems like you want to believe that if he'll just stick around you'll prove to him that you're not like the other girls he's dated, and everything will work out beautifully. If he's bailing out when things are still so fresh and new, though, then you can bet he'd bail out once the honeymoon portion of the relationship wears off. He's telling you he can't offer you what you want. Believe him. You'll only end up getting hurt worse in the end if you start thinking otherwise. Just let him leave, and break off all contact with him now. The more you stay, the harder it will be later on.