Would I be some jealous psycho bitch if I just came clean and told him some of these women's posts and behavior make me uncomfortable and I'd like to know more about why they would feel it's ok to be this way (like are they some of his famous exes or what) and is he doing anything to encourage this attention?
It does NOT matter if he thinks you're a psycho jealous bitch because if you don't tell him how you feel then you will undoubtedly become one due to your angst and how insecure his disrespectful behaviour (not answering your simple questions about them for instance) will lead you to become.
I haven't read all the posts so excuse me if this has been asked but, did you have an exclusivity talk with him? Does he consider himself in an exclusive relationship of monogamy or was this just assumed?
Anyway and at this point I think his behaviour to be a red flag (as do you or this thread wouldn't exist) so don't ignore that or sweep it under the rug because the more he thinks you're okay with his behaviour, the more leeway he will push for. Find out if he values you enough to at least explain why he needs to get his ego through the attention of other women.
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Guess I just want to figure out the best way to approach the subject. Like, on the phone, or wait until we see each other, or try to play it off and hope it stops, I don't know!!!
wait until you're face to face so you know when/if he's hedging or stalling to come up with something that he deems you'll accept. You'll want to be able to see facial expression, body language and other "tells" as well.
My rule, which I think is a good one: Never have important conversations or try to resolve issues through text or email, there's just too much room for misunderstanding etc and it's not conducive to learning how to effectively communicate and resolve conflict. Which of course is extremely important to be able to do in order to keep one's union happy and humming along nicely.
Good luck, let us know what he has to say for himself once you get the gurl ballzzz to stop losing yourself and own happiness in order to keep him happy so he stays with you.
Last edited by Wakeup; 07-06-13 at 12:05 AM.
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