Originally Posted by
Chillabilla
Ok I feel silly putting this question here but my boyfriend of 5 years keeps texting our downstairs neighbor all the time. They have even hung out a few times, and he usually plans to go down there at night to sit on their porch and stuff. I have gone a couple times to hang out as well, but i dont feel very welcome so i stopped. This is driving me insane! We had a pretty serious talk about it and he said I have nothing to worry about and I believe him, but right after this whole emotional confrontation he kept right on texting her and apologizing for not hanging out that night.
I don't think he will cheat on me, but is it rational for me to feel a certain way about them texting 24/7 almost?
I can tell my feelings about the situation are putting a wedge between us a little.
I really don't dislike the girl, she's very nice, I just wish the circumstances were different.
How would most people react in this situation, or is it best just to not react at all?
Well let me say this, you should have told him you didn't want him talking to her. In fact I would have told him if he wanted her so bad, move in down there and leave you be since he can't quit talking to her via text. I would have been insulted at him apologizing to a woman that should mean nothing. I would have been so damn angry if I were you, because you know what it is just wrong. You are being played emotionally, by him and her. So the question is, do you stick around and get physically cheated on? Or do you go now while it is still the emotional sting? You are obviously a very nice woman, who hopes for the best but don't let someone trample over your heart and emotions. You are better than that, it is time you held your head high and you told him more or less to piss off. If and when he gets defensive about it, you tell her the same cause I get the funniest feeling he will have her tell you nothing is wrong. That is when you tell that girl who is playing games with your bf, that she can shove it, and watch him get defensive when you tell her off in a "nice" way. You deserve better than this child like behavior. Set the standard and the ultimatum, this is your emotional well being on the line. Take control. I bet you haven't even seen all the texts yet, or even bothered to hover down there and listen in. Some would call this spying and an invasion of privacy, but guess what, the invasion started in on you when this happened. If he says one negative thing to you, its already over. Take all this advice and use it. You will get the truth one way or another.
“I was never really insane except upon occasions when my heart was touched.” ― Edgar Allan Poe
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