Originally Posted by
PJ999
Hi, I'm 33 and my girlfriend is 25. We have been together for 2 years now living together. We love eachother a lot and we never argue/have problems. I feel we're not just partners, we're also best friends if that makes sense.
The thing is, she has an gotten an opportunity to go study abroad, something that will get her from low minimum wage to a high middle class salary. This is a big opportunity for her and not something that I want to take away from her. But if she will take that opportunity it will mean I will not see her for at least 4 years, and who knows what will happen in that time.
I know she is sometimes hoping that I will tell her to stay with me, but my finances aren't that great either at the moment so I'm not really confident that I can support us both. And I'm also thinking "what if we break up in the future?" Then I will have ruined her opportunity for a better financial future...
The reason for me thinking "what if we breakup?" is because I lost sexual interest in her for the most part. I'm still horney, just not for her. I know maybe that sounds bad, but it's only the sexual part. I still love her very much, that has only increased as our relationship and mutual trust solidified over time...
I don't feel in anyway that I want to break up with her by the way. I'm just thinking about the future, because I'm not sure if having no sexual desire towards your partner is healthy, and if it will work long term or cause problems.
I don't know what to do really. i know that if she goes I will miss her A LOT. But I'm scared that if she stays that maybe our relationship won't last, and then she is left with nothing. No career and no love.
Please advise. What do you think? What should I do? Please share your insights