Hi,
I'm going through a bit of a rough patch with my partner at the moment and need advice on what I should do.
My partner replaced a broken part of my car and while we were'nt home his dad phoned and asked if he could scrap the part for the money. My partner told him no because it isn't his however when we had arrived back home, he had gone and done it either way. This caused a massive uproar and my partner called his dad a thief, to which he didn't like the truth and chucked him out of his home, causing him to be homeless & sleeping rough. My partner then wanted nothing to do with them as he doesn't get on well with his dad to begin with. (He has unpaid debts in his name that his dad ran up & refuses to pay & has had him working for him for years unpaid.)
My partner has a kind enough friend who rents houses to let him move into one of his empty houses. However he had no furniture & no way of picking any up. His dad has a van and was the only person he could ask. To which my partner was told to apologise for calling him a thief to get some sofas and a bed etc picked up.
Since I have been called all sorts behind my back from his family because I refuse to have anything to do with them. I have still not received an apology either even though it was 4 months ago (not that it would make any difference.)
What has really p****d me off is how my partner was expected to apologise for speaking the truth whereas his dad was in the wrong and is no true man to apologise.
Since, my partner visits them every single day and is choosing to spend time with them over me. If I ask for any help with anything he will whinge whereas if his mam/dad ask he's around there at the drop of a hat. I have moved to his hometown (120 miles from my home) as I am the only person really there for him. I have no friends or family down here & am so lonely & depressed all of the time.
I just feel really betrayed that his family would do such a thing yet he's ran back to them like a lapdog. Especially when his mam & dad threw him out to sleep rough for no fault of his own. I have done so much for him over the years by helping him out, especially when his family put him down (daily) but it just seems to have gone un-noticed.
We now bicker about it everyday and I'm feeling so low and down all the time that when my partner's not in i'm constantly crying. I'm getting to the end with how much i can take, however I really love him. It feels like such a petty reason to split up over his family, but lying thieving scum seem to mean more to him than someone who actually cares about him & has helped him out when no one else will.
I just feel at a crossroad at the moment. Every time I try to explain how I feel, he takes the huff and can't accept it & we end up no further forward.
I'm also finishing university at the moment which also adds a ton of stress to everything & I have felt like taking my life many times over the past 3 months.
Could anybody please give me some advice? I no longer know what to do
Thank you