So here goes. I am 45, separated but getting divorced, 3 children and live in the US. I met a woman, 26, single, who lives in the UK. We met online gaming. We became best friends. I have always been open and honest with my life and she has done the same for me. I told my wife that I wanted a divorce. WE had been unhappy in our marriage for the last 6 years or so. We sought marriage counseling and all the rest. But if neither of you are willing to compromise anymore, no relationship will last. And I wanted to end it before things got bad for the kids. Anyway, my friend knew all of this and was very supportive as a friend would be. She even drove me crazy by always asking if this is what I wanted. After I told my wife things were over for good, my friend and I started talking about the deep feelings that had developed over our 10 month friendship. I told her that I loved her often but she would not say the same back because I am still legally married. I respect her very much for that. We started talking about a potential future with each other about 2 months ago. Everything seemed fine all though there was the "idea" of our age difference and such. I believe loves no age and she seemed to feel the same way. Then things went sour about 2 weeks ago. Even though we communicated every day and most of it was positive, she started to have doubts. Finally last weekend, on our 1 year "anniversary" she stated that she had even greater doubts. Not just about the age difference and children, but whether or not we would able to ever be together due to the immigration bureaucracy and the likes. All the "problems" hit her like a ton of bricks to the point she couldn't see straight. I tried to reassure her that if we worked together and took everything 1 step at a time we could make it work. So far she can only see a negative outcome to all the obstacles in our path. She then pointed to the advice on 1 website on why she didn't want to try and make us work. I want to give her time and try and calm down and think things through. Its killing me inside however. Not only an I losing the woman I love, but my best friend as well. Any advice? Is this relationship salvageable? What would all of you out there do in similar circumstances? Any help would be appreciated and IS needed. Thanks for reading and have a good day