Does age really matter? And do you think it matters in this case?

[UsuallyConfused]

So Im 17 and I Hung out with this really attractive boy who's 20. I thought we really connected because we had a lot in common and spent most of the day holding my hands, and me, and "trying" to kiss me. And right before I left, I let him kiss me which turned into this amazing make out sesh. In the middle of it he said things like "you're really beautiful" and "I feel really comfortable around you". We said goodnight like 5 or 6 times before we actually headed our separate ways and I couldn't help but smile like an idiot the whole way home. The only thing that crushed my mood was that he suddenly decided, after I left, that he doesn't want to date me until I'm 18... It's so strange. I've never had a problem with being too young and honestly there are lots of 20-something year-olds who want to date me for whatever reason but I'm not interested in them. But anyways, I just don't see the problem. It's a 3-year age difference but wouldn't that have been enough to stop him from trying to hold my hand and make out with me in the first place? And I know that if we were to date, sex would not be involved because he is a Christian and I have a hard time trusting people as it is, so its not like we'd get in trouble or anything. So what's the deal? But he doesn't really care what my age is as long as I'm at least 18 so wtf. He also says its not me and that I should trust him... But technically, isn't it me...? I'm not 18...

[basilandthyme]

17 and 20 would have been of no concern to me, so I can't begin to explain. Perhaps Christian parents have forbidden him from dating a girl who's not 18?

I guess all you can do is tell him that IF you're still single at 18, he can give you a call. But don't wait around for him - you don't want to miss Mr Right while Mr Maybe isn't going to make a move.

[TablesandChairs]

It's not a big at all - it's only 3 years. If you're not going to have sex for the time being...then there's really nothing for him to be concerned about. He's 20, not 30.

[searock]

Just wait for a few months, shouldn't be long until you're 18... not a big deal. It's his personal rule, I don't think there's anything you can do about it. I would respect a guy like that - as long as his lower age limit will increase with time as he himself ages.

[AbigailR]

He might just be hung up on the fact that you're a minor. He wouldn't get in trouble, but he might have personal reasons for not wanting to date you yet.

[michelle23]

I dont think a 3 year age gap is a big deal tbh but if it is to him coz your underage then you need to respect that. Maybe he wants a girl he can go to parties with-drinking, clubbing etc.. and you cant do those things yet

[namemyname]

What's the age of consent where you live?