asking her to have sex

[staticsnake]

The current girl i'm seeing is the only girl I have slept with. This sounds dumb but how can i signal to her the when Im wanting to have sex. I know I can just tell her or ask her but sometimes I worry that if I am always asking ro telling herr she might think I am only with her due to the sex.

Like I said this is my first girl I have slept with so I am pretty new to all thi

[Am I crazy?]

If you know each other well enough there are no signals necessary. Its ok to ask but don't ask too much or beg. If you want the girl to know that you are there for more than sex let her initiate some too. If you are asking for or expecting sex every time you are together than you probably are just in it for the sex and just don't know it.

[michelle23]

Balance is important. As long as you enjoy doing other things with her too such as cuddling on the couch to a good film, talking and spending quality time together, being affectionate even when you don't want sex-kisses, cuddles, holding hands etc, making an effort to take her out sometimes, introduce her to your family/friends.

If your doing all that-then she will know you are not just using her for sex.

I think you should show her with actions rather than words when you want her. Just start kissing her, then slowly move down-kiss her neck. Let one thing lead to another. The trick is to make her horny even when she doesn't seem to be. Dont wait for her to take the lead. Women like a man who can take the initiative and be a little aggressive. We want to feel wanted and desired and she will get bored if you cannot make her feel that way.

It sounds like you are in a new relationship. You should use your time in bed with her to make it all about her, learn her body, figure out what she likes, know how to make her orgasm. If you put in the hard work now-you will be rewarded for that down the line with lots of sex

Best of luck

[smackie9]

It is different for each person. Some like to initiate some like to be initiated. The best way is to hug her and let her feel your hardon up against her. Or come out of the shower with a hardon and do a dance for her. Start giving her a massage and everything should just fall into place. Flirt and romance her, give her a passionate kiss and grope her ass. Remeber girls need to feel appreciated and sexy in order to want sex, so make sure you let her know how hot she is and how much she turns you on.

[dickriculous]

The current girl i'm seeing is the only girl I have slept with. This sounds dumb but how can i signal to her the when Im wanting to have sex. I know I can just tell her or ask her but sometimes I worry that if I am always asking ro telling herr she might think I am only with her due to the sex.

Funny, I straight up throw my girl on the bed/floor/couch and go to town on her without worrying about this at all. If she thought that I was apprehensive about sexing her up because I was afraid she'd think I only wanted sex she would think I'm too much of a pussy for her and left me a long time ago.

[namemyname]

Its ok to ask but don't ask too much or beg.

Wrong.

I can't think of a bigger turn-off than a guy ASKING for sex. Yeesh. How clinical.

OP - foreplay can start well before any kind of physical contact. A look between you or playful conversation can be enough to get things going. You need to learn this, rather than being a Neanderthal that asks outright for head.

Remember, women are like ovens - we need to be warmed up.

[Am I crazy?]

"Remember, women are like ovens - we need to be warmed up." lol,

remember, men are like microwave ovens- sometimes we just want our meat heated up and eaten quickly!

[paythebills]

"Remember, women are like ovens - we need to be warmed up." lol,

remember, men are like microwave ovens- sometimes we just want our meat heated up and eaten quickly!

lo..........

[michelle23]

Haha in that case-women have a bit of a micro oven in us too occasionally

OP sex is all in the mind. Making her feel loved, hot, beautiful, special, comfortable, relaxed etc

I know it sounds complicated but its not really. It starts outside the bedroom. Flirting is important. Even if your together 30 years-you still have to be playful and flirt with each other. A cheeky wink, slap on the ass, tickling, teasing verbally and silently, laughter is also important and lots of affection.

And changing things regular is important. Be in control, be aggressive sometimes, other times be romantic, other times be passive-let her take the lead.

When your together awhile-it wont be an issue. Youll get used to each other and it will all fall into place. Youll know when shes in the mood eventually. It just takes time to feel comfortable and relaxed and i think your bodies start to run on the same clock. With me and my bf it does anyway-where we always seem to be in the mood at the same time.

[basilandthyme]

"Remember, women are like ovens - we need to be warmed up." lol,

remember, men are like microwave ovens- sometimes we just want our meat heated up and eaten quickly!

that's hysterical. hahahaha

[namemyname]

"Remember, women are like ovens - we need to be warmed up." lol,

remember, men are like microwave ovens- sometimes we just want our meat heated up and eaten quickly!

Hilarious.

[dem862]

We do it everytime we are together. There is no need to ask. The only question is how soon we can get to it.