Hi, I have been with my wife since 1989 and been married since 1996. We have two children, youngest being 5. We are the same age and both work full time, me during the day and her at night so we dont spend an awful lot of time together and any time we do have is spent being with the kids or taking them to clubs. We do not get much support from family so dont go out but try to watch films together or go for drives etc. I also have health issues with type 1 diabetes and heart problems.
The problem I have is that a few years ago my wife stopped being affectionate with me. We still made love but she no longer hugged me or kissed me and when I tried she pushed me away and made excuses this has gone on for quite a while and now we barely make love at all and if we do I get the impression it is something she is putting up with. It is straight to it and hurry up. Even if I try to do foreplay she asks if I am ready yet and again it makes it feel like a chore for her which is not what I want. I have asked her why but she says she is tired or that I need to be nicer to her but that does not answer why she wont touch me at all or kiss me. In bed she has taken to rolling right away from me so we dont even touch all night. So I went about doing all the chores, looked after the kids made all the meals was as nice to her as possible and this went on for weeks but not even a kiss. She says she needs me but I am not sure for what. I dont want to leave cause I love her and my kids are everything. Never having sex again is one thing but no affection at all is another.
Is it over for her as far as I am concerned? What should I do?