I have been wondering myself, if it is part of her personality. I have wondered if she feels unfulfilled and insecure, even if she says she is fulfilled and secure. Because of her saying several times over the years, claiming no one cares about her. That would include me, her boyfriend, her family and kids.
I don't let her get away with treating me like garbage, when she does it. There have been times, where I just avoided her.
Well, I used to take the garbage personally. But I started laughing at it years ago. I agree on the critical/negativity angle. Maybe I am thinking too hard. But I am getting at the difference between the 'criticism' one moment, and her practically yelling at me for not being available the next time.
Yes, I agree, she could be a drama queen.