My (?) I can't say ex because still a relationship there but also can't say partner or BF.... So my ( ? )... sister had a baby and he didn't travel to meet the new baby.. the drive is few hours away, but he stayed around the city doing gawd knows what- we didn't hang, because had words, but I said family should come first and you should go see her and the baby and show you care, he seems to be very money driven and egocentric lately and it bothers me. Talking about spending 1000s on shoes and suits and I said hope you donate some money to charity if you have all that to toss away, give back too and he ignored me, and ignored me when I said don't forget to buy the new baby a present.. I even offered to go buy something nice for him to take home for the baby and he could pay me for what it cost...
I push because he was so close to his family and I loved that about him, his grand dad died last year and it hurt him and I want him to see his nan etc. I push because I love him and want him to be that type of man, especially if he ever wants his own family he'll have to put them first before him a lot of times....
He said I am the only person who rides his ass on that stuff and I annoy him when I do it. *sighs*
I don't do it to be nasty, I do it because I care and would mean a lot to his family too.
It's like all the work girls and fun time group take it all so casual, all about self and I am so different, I can't help I am this way. Is how I was brought up, he knows this.
I won't apologize for caring and wanting him to see outside of only himself.
Does what I said look naggy? He still tells me he loves me... but that is becoming meaningless with all the other things that surround it now. Even if I don't marry him, I want him to be a wonderful man for another. I want him to have the marriage and family life he didn't get to enjoy when a child because of his dad's selfishness and adultery.
Time to back off?