Backstory: We're both in our early 20s. We met on an online dating website. We've been on 5 dates over the past month or so. Everytime we have been on a date, things have gone well. It's been an up and down rollercoaster for me. The texting / phone communication has always been a little bothersome for me, but it's gotten worse the past week. We used to text at least once a day, and the past 2 weeks there have been periods where we haven't spoke in 3-4 days at all.
On our 3rd date, we were in her bedroom watching a movie. She climbed ontop of me, started making out very intensely. She was biting my ear, kissing my neck, tugging on my boxers, pushing her hips into me. I ended up flipping her over and kissing her harder, she was lightly moaning. I began kissing her chest and she stopped me saying we were moving too fast. Previously from this date, we had only kissed goodbye and held hands, so I understood where she was coming from and respected that.
Moving on, that weekend is when she first started being a little distant with the communication. A few days went by, I'd have 2-3 unanswered texts from her so I never pressed the issue. I got tired of waiting and called her, leaving a voicemail telling her to get back to me, as I had intentions on asking her out on another date. She did text me back later that night, simply saying 'Hey! How are you?'. We ended up going on another date, it went well. We kiss, she holds my hand in public, she cuddles me when laying in her bed. When I leave, the days after are just almost silent. I don't hear much from her, my 2-3 texts go without a response again for days. Meanwhile, she updates her facebook status once a day, so she gets the messages, just chooses not to respond for some reason.
After another period of this issue, I called and she picked up her phone for once. I was going to ask her out on a date for the day after. She told me she's been overworked and underslept and hadn't been feeling good. I asked if she had any plans for that night, and she said no just laying in bed. So I asked if shes up for it, I could meet her that night. She said yes and ended up taking some medicine and we had a great time together again.
Now here we are, waiting again. I really like this girl, more than I should, and I do NOT find girls that have as many common interests as I do with this one, so I am trying hard here, but her lack of response or communication has been causing me slight anxiety. I don't want to shower her with texts or phone calls with no response because that obviously comes off needy.
What am I dealing with here? We had one hot and heavy intimate night, so she's clearly attracted to me. We get along great in person and the dates are always fun. I enjoy seeing her, she shows affection in person, doesn't mind cuddling and kissing me. On the other hand, the lack of communication is bothersome.
My logical mind tells me if you're interested in someone, you make a reasonable effort to chat with them whether over the phone or text between dates. You would respond or even initiate texts / phone calls if interested. She's not responded to my last 3 texts or initiated anything back for the past few days since the date Tuesday, but has time to update her FB status and hold a large conversation with someone in comments. I know it's good that she has continued to accept and meet me on dates on my terms about once a week, but it's a little bothersome there hasn't been as much communication inbetween as I would have liked. In person, she has no problem kissing me, cuddling in bed or holding my hand in public. I guess you could say I'm somewhat of an active texter and to see she isn't is a little discouraging.
Am I reading too much into this lack of communication on her part? I've been told it could mean disinterest all the way to her liking me so much it scares her so she's taking it slow lol. Frankly, I'm considering just approaching her about where she feels we stand but everyone keeps telling me that's a bad move...
What do I do here?