I come from a past relationship with a narcissist girl, that trapped me for a while, also after the break up.
Almost 6 months passed now, and I still didn't recover my confidence 100%.
In March, I've met this girl in a club in another city in Poland (I live in Germany, really close to the Polish border).
She looked really cute but also really interesting and calm, balanced person.
I connected with her friends as well, they were really nice as well, so I ended up having her contact and her friends contact as well, especially her best male friend that is a cool guy and we have the same taste in music and he is not a "competitive" straight man so I really like him.
When I went back in my city i wrote to her that she looked really interesting as a person.
In May, her friend writes me that they were coming to my city because she had an interview for a job here. I said they could stay to my place, and she sends me a really sweet message that I didn't really expected, showing some interest but in a really non obvious flirty way.
We had a nice time, nothing happened but she got the job.
She moved here 2 weeks ago, and we started seeing each others.
The connection was big, she is a really smart girl and I consider her a good fit.
At the second date she came to my place, and I tried to kiss her.
She said that she was a slow girl, she didn't expect that and she wanted to see how this goes. I told her that i'd like to take the risk to date her because I really liked her, being really open about that. When we said goodbye she gave me another date.
We met for dinner at mine, but she had to cancel it because something external happened, I showed her my disappointment since I had to cancel another thing for this, and she told me I am like a lady. When we said goodbye I kissed her on the neck and gave her an envelope with an handwritten note about something we were joking about the second date.
I met her again yesterday because she asked me (she writes me every day to know how was my day and it's really nice) she looked a bit nervous, but then she relaxed and we had a long chat.
My fear is obviously being friendzoned, I think I can share a lot with her and I believe that taking it slow is a good thing, but also I dont want to finish in the tricky situation where this thing goes on forever.
Also I don't understand why she would continue actively searching for me after i told her that i liked her, if she was not interested.
What do you think about it?