Originally Posted by
IslandScorp
First of all, please stop believing that guys have to be "robotic hard asses" and that showing emotion or that you're interested in someone means that you're weak. Where do some guys get this idea from anyway? Personally, I think that people (men and women) who think that they have to be a certain way because that's what they think is expected of them are weak. They have no confidence to be who they really are. When I was growing up, most of my friends were guys and I got along best with the ones who I could talk to openly about anything. They'd tell me about their insecurities, about how they liked a particular girl and how they were afraid of asking her out because she might say no, about not being experienced in the lovemaking department, etc. I never found them to be creepy or thought of them as being weak. I think that you're far too concerned with how you'll be perceived that you might be coming across as insecure or someone who's not interested in a relationship or something along those lines. This girl might have been interested in you but it seems you never responded correctly. I don't know if you can fix it but there's no harm in trying. Only, when you text someone you care about, don't just say things like "Hi. Just saying hello." or something like that. Say "Hi. I've been thinking about you a lot and missing those talks we used to have." or something more along those lines. Someone honest, real, touching. If you've missed the boat with her, then so be it. There'll be another opportunity with someone else. You just need to be willing to put yourself out there. By the way, I hate texts. I know that's how so many people communicate these days but I would much rather be speaking with someone over the phone.