Originally Posted by
dickriculous
I actually hurt a living creature, I inflicted physical damage on someone I loved, I created a victim. This girl had sex and later decided "oh shit I'm not actually attracted to this guy". What OP did was akin to picking an entree you think will be delicious that ends up tasting like ass.
Originally Posted by
dickriculous
She didn't take advantage of me in any shape or form. To take advantage of someone involves an element of deceit, or excessive imposing. Neither of those things happened. We fell into each other's arms and had sex.
First quote is wise beyond your years. I'm impressed (not surprised tho).
The second I would amend slightly. Its not the age delta per se, its when there is a power imbalance, which can come with such an age discrepancy. If your lady was, say, your prof I would have a serious problem with this. Same for the OP. Of course, you could then argue that kind of scenario (a teacher, doctor, etc. taking advantage of their position to entice someone relatively inexperienced) would fit into your Quote #1 above (that you are then creating a victim) and I wouldn't disagree.
Otherwise, if everyone is of age - its just sex... which is natural and fun... cue George:
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh