I am a bit older (upper 20s), but without much "serious" relationship experience.
I have mostly done casual dating and flings. I didn't expect to fall for this girl.
We broke up because I thought she wanted marriage and babies ASAP. I'm afraid of commitment, and my friend was telling me if I dated her and wasn't 100% certain RIGHT NOW about babies, I'd leave her an old spinster. It was complete crap, and my friend was trying to sabotage it, because, surprise surprise, she was in love with me. Stupid drama.
I tried to get over her, but just wasn't happy doing it. I liked her, wanted her, missed her.
She's the best girl I've dated.
She doesn't seem to care as much about the other guy as me. Not sure if that's still true. The first time we met after the break-up, she kept asking me if I was snooping, and seeing if I was jealous.
Then when I told her I wanted her back a week later (a day before he was taking her on a camping trip, so REALLY poor timing), she rejected me, crying.
Then she agreed to meet with me a week after that, and I think she nearly took me back. I think she thinks I wasn't actually serious, and I was just needy/wanting her back because I couldn't have her. She even put on the movie the break up and made a comment about how, "Men always want what they can't have", but by the end of the night we were looking in each other's eyes, and she was telling me how much she missed them.
I actually really, without a shred of doubt in my mind, still like her.
I was pushy after that, she told me she "really liked the other guy", and then proceeded to give me examples of "We're going to do 4th of July together" and "I'm going on a trip to Chicago with him", which to me didn't seem like real reasons, but I can't tell. Maybe she does like him. She probably likes him even more now.
I just don't know what to do in this case - I've screwed it up royally. This was a marriage quality girl though.