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[kirsy]

Just out of curiosity would you forgive a person who talked bad about you? just want to know people opinions or tell me your experience

[Millie]

Define bad? It would really depend on who they were and what they'd said and who they'd said it to!

[Rowen]

I would say it depends on how bad it is and what transpired because of it... If I was in a serious relationship and someone started a rumor to my partner that I cheated on him or something and he dumped me because of it? They would find out just how fast they would find themselves out of my life... But if it was just something everyday and nothing happened, I would forgive them if they later felt remorse.

[smackie9]

Uh I usually keep my distance and be civil if I have to interact with them.

[basilandthyme]

I find that holding grudges uses up too much energy. I prefer to let the anger go....and then do as Smackie does.

[YoungCosmo]

If I deserve the criticism, I deserve it and take it. If they're just pointing out my various physical flaws because they're either a bitchy girl or some douchey guy, I don't really care, either: they're probably bound to be right more often than wrong.

Sefl-deprecation aside, "shit talking" only means as much as the amount of power one gives it.

[sadbunnyface]

Yes if it was truthful and wasn't meant as a bitchy mean move. It really depends on what was said and why they said it. I've forgiven a lot so most likely I would.

[anonymous_a]

It does depend on the situation. I have this friend who is also good friends with my step sister. She was actually friends with my step sister first, but because our boyfriends are best friends, I hang out with much more than my sister does. A little while ago, my sister and I got into a huge argument, and stopped talking for a couple months, I found out later that through all the animosity that was going on, our mutual "friend" had been telling my sister things about me, that I told her in confidence. I was furious, and I reamed her out for it, and we stopped talking for about a month. A little while later I ran into her, and told me she was pregnant, I congratulated her, and we moved on. Later that day, she texted me a huge apology, and admitted that she was wrong in telling my sister the things that she did, and explained how hard it has been being stuck between us, which I can understand. We are now back to talking and hanging out, although it is going to take her a while to earn back my full trust, and I still am weary about the things I tell her.

I had another friend who talked a bunch of shit behind my back, called me all kinds of names to our mutual friends, and when I approached her about it, she never once apologized, and simply defended her reasons to why she was doing this to me, even though the things she was saying weren't true. That was 2 years ago, and I haven't spoken to her since.

[Jffs24]

I don't have time for petty assholes, so I would not acknowledge them after.

[Philip123]

If it was bad as in trying to destroy my business or family, then no, otherwise, yes

[michelle23]

depends, if they were telling the truth then ya.. if they made up lies about me no