helping out a friend

[stilldoubting]

Hi guys im back again.

Thank you to those of you who responded to me the last time. Recently a friend of mine has been having some issues. I told her about this site and she asked me to post her question here. I would really appreciate some more of you great peoples advice.

She met this man a year ago. At the beginning of the relationship, she noticed he was very close friends with a girl who he went to school with. The girl is really pretty which made my friend feel insecure. He told her he has no interest in his friend that they are really just friends. He introduced them like a month or so later and they immediately didnt like each other. The friend ignores my friend and only talks to him making lots of eye contact, smiling, touching his arm, playing with her hair and weird flirty stuff like that. It made my friend feel so uncomfortable that she walked out and told him to go **** his friend.

After two months of him convincing her that there is nothing going on-she agreed to start seeing him again on the condition that he makes it clear to his friend to stop flirting with him. the bitch went crazy sending my friend all sorts of nasty messages and threats-being a complete psycho and her bf told the girl to go away..

Fast forward to now. She recently looked on his FB and he has 1000's of messages to this girl nearly every day for the past 6 months, she found out he has met up with her loads of times, they watched a movie together and went out clubbing twice. She also says things like naughty boy and xoxoxo and there is a message there saying I want to suck your sausage..

I told her to end the relationship. But she wont. She is convinced its all this other girls fault and her bf is innocent but HELLO he surely should have blocked her and told her to **** off. Do you guys think he cheated? We have no proof yet. She copied and pasted all the messages so she can read them all later when hes not home

[4 ratties]

She needs to dump him now. She can't trust him at all.. She must have really low self esteem to think this is the best she can do.

[horndog]

you either picked a really bad time to post this due to recent similar discussions, or you are someone from the other thread looking for a "do over" . Either way- Im not touching this one.

[stilldoubting]

How do I convince her that he is untrustworthy. She cant see it. She thinks the girl is a demon sent from hell and her bf is an angle. I told her to stay away from him that first time but she would not listen to me. I hate fellas like him who expect their gf to be okay with some bitch flirting with him.

[nohope]

this is exactly what is called cheating!! Im sorry to say that, but he is obviously a player and a liar! if they can flirt with each other while she's around, they can do more than that when she's not. and the nasty messages prove it all. Your friend should dump him right away because going out with her behind ur friends back is not very promising for the future.

[michelle23]

You cant convince your friend of anything. If she is this naive then leave her at it. She will learn her lesson the hard way and there is nothing you or anyone else can do about it.

My cousin is a typical co-dependent. She was with a guy on and off for two years. Basically she was his puppet and he pulled all the strings. He made a fool of her and shed come to me and b**tch and cry and id always tell her "until you grow some self respect and tell him to **** off-he will keep walking all over you. Everyone enabled it-were there to wipe her tears and buy her ice cream evey second week and feeling sorry for her. She couldnt see that the problem was her coz she kept giving him chance after chance

anyway eventually everyone stopped caring, people just laughed at her and shook their head including my 11 year old sister who was also sick of the drama

when she realized she was on her own and people had their own problems and were sick of babysitting her-she dumped him for good.

Dont tolerate co-dependants. When she b**ches and cries to you just change the subject . Its her own fault if she chooses to be with him knowing that hes a cunt and as long as your there saying hes a prick, you can do better, your too good for him blah blah blah shell stay with him

instead say "oh well no man will ever respect a doormat like you anyway sooo" and walk away. Guaranteed she will dump him within a few weeks. Shell prob hate you for awhile though-so be it

[VerticalMoon]

You can't convince anyone who isn't interested in listening to your opinion. She will need to learn through trial and error.

[namemyname]

Why do people pretend to be asking for a friend?

Lame.

OP - just admit it's you.

[stilldoubting]

Thank you all. She told him it is over last night.