Jealousy problem...

[SquirtlePokemon]

Okay so my boyfriend doesn't believe me when I say I think he's the most beautiful guy in the world for me (something that I am already trying to prove him but he doesn't believe me since months). He often talks to me about girls flirting with him and finding him attractive (but he doesn't like it, he would prefer if it were me), so my reaction is getting extremely jealous, because he believes those girls, and not me. I get also scared because he tells me he could go find the attention he needs in another girl if I don't prove him I'm saying the truth soon ( he says this to make me react more than because he will do it, but as he never believes me and doesnt understand the things I show him to make him understand I'm telling the truth, I'm getting scared that he would actually take this decision) What behaviour should I have concerning those other girls ?? Is my reaction bad ?? I love and core for him so much and I want him to finally realize that I am saying the truth..
PS. we're long distance

[4 ratties]

He's being really mean to you. Threatening to get attention from other girls if you don't "prove you find him attractive soon" you two are long distance so trust and communication are even more important and he is just not being nice to you. I would talk to him about it or end things and find a guy that respects you

[anonymous_a]

He is being manipulative and emotionally abusive. Threatening to get attention to other girls, because you don't give him enough, or whatever it is, is wrong.

[romantic-88]

Okay so my boyfriend doesn't believe me when I say I think he's the most beautiful guy in the world for me (something that I am already trying to prove him but he doesn't believe me since months). He often talks to me about girls flirting with him and finding him attractive (but he doesn't like it, he would prefer if it were me), so my reaction is getting extremely jealous, because he believes those girls, and not me. I get also scared because he tells me he could go find the attention he needs in another girl if I don't prove him I'm saying the truth soon ( he says this to make me react more than because he will do it, but as he never believes me and doesnt understand the things I show him to make him understand I'm telling the truth, I'm getting scared that he would actually take this decision) What behaviour should I have concerning those other girls ?? Is my reaction bad ?? I love and core for him so much and I want him to finally realize that I am saying the truth..
PS. we're long distance

Hi,
can you give us more details? I am not sure I understand well the problem.
If he does not like hearing that he is handsome from other girls, this means he cares only about your opinion (great).

But this thing about the proof (you must convince him you find him handsome/attractive or it is over?), it is not clear to me. I think there is sth more here. If you share more details, I will try to give some GOOD advice.

What does he think that you see in him (if he is not sure about the fact that he is attractive in your eyes)?
Would you share with us? What is his fear about? If he thinks you may not find him attractive, WHY YOU ARE HAVING A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM (according to him)?

[basilandthyme]

He often talks to me about girls flirting with him and finding him attractive (but he doesn't like it, he would prefer if it were me), so my reaction is getting extremely jealous, because he believes those girls, and not me.

pfft. If a guy said that to me, I'd tell him that if my love isn't good enough, then he should go be with those other girls. Hon, you really need to put some boundaries in place with this guy.

[TablesandChairs]

He's playing games with you and knows you're too silly to put the foot down. Next time he says it, say 'fine, you want those other girls, go get them. I've tried my best, nothing is good enough, bye'. See how he reacts. Stop being such a little kitten.

[michelle23]

Gawd I hope you are like 15? That is the only way you can get away with being this slow when it comes to men..

You need to tell him to f**k off. He is playing you. He is trying to make you feel like it is all your fault so he can get away with cheating on you and you will forgive him. He is being manipulative and you are falling for it.