girlfriend/boyfriend with a member of the opposite sex

**neilpie** · 27-07-13, 08:17 AM

Would you have any issues with your girlfriend/boyfriend hanging out with a member of the opposite sex? It being an old friend or even a new friend. Would you have issues?

**HeartIsAching** · 27-07-13, 08:36 AM

It would depend on the situation. There are several mutual friends of my wife and I that I would have no trouble with my wife hanging out with... and a few that I would.

Michelle's going to jump in and vehemently disagree with me.

**michelle23** · 27-07-13, 08:41 AM

No HIA im not. I also think it depends. Are they gonna hang out alone together? Are you not invited? If not, why not? Have you met this friend? How close are they? What kind of activities do they share together?

I have no problem with men and women being friendly. Theres just lines that shouldnt be crossed IMO. I talk to a number of guys on a daily basis. Many work near by and stop for a chat..id consider my bfs friends, my friends, i have male friends i grew up with who i enjoy spending time with occasionally on a night out.

I just think think theres a big difference between being friendly and being too friendly.

**basilandthyme** · 27-07-13, 08:50 AM

I probably wouldn't have issues. The behaviour would have to be very suspicious before I'd be concerned.

**neilpie** · 27-07-13, 10:07 AM

Originally Posted by michelle23

No HIA im not. I also think it depends. Are they gonna hang out alone together? Are you not invited? If not, why not? Have you met this friend? How close are they? What kind of activities do they share together?

I have no problem with men and women being friendly. Theres just lines that shouldnt be crossed IMO. I talk to a number of guys on a daily basis. Many work near by and stop for a chat..id consider my bfs friends, my friends, i have male friends i grew up with who i enjoy spending time with occasionally on a night out.

I just think think theres a big difference between being friendly and being too friendly.

actually i do not know if they are friends. she told me he texted her wanting to hang out. she said she replied" no i don't want to" but it made me think,

**staticsnake** · 27-07-13, 10:26 AM

if there is trust, should there really be an issue

**neilpie** · 27-07-13, 10:50 AM

well my girlfriend just told me she got high with some guy

**neilpie** · 27-07-13, 10:55 AM

and when i asked why she wants to wait so late to meet she just said "cuz"

whatever..lol

**basilandthyme** · 27-07-13, 10:56 AM

So, do you trust her or not?

**neilpie** · 27-07-13, 11:03 AM

Originally Posted by basilandthyme

So, do you trust her or not?

i do but im annoyed

**staticsnake** · 27-07-13, 11:11 AM

dont let your jealousy get you

**michelle23** · 27-07-13, 05:38 PM

Originally Posted by neilpie

actually i do not know if they are friends. she told me he texted her wanting to hang out. she said she replied" no i don't want to" but it made me think,

If she said no, whats the problem?

**VerticalMoon** · 27-07-13, 07:30 PM

Two of my husbands closest friends are girls. As long as there's been no sign of a romantic attraction developing between them, I don't care. I also trust him to cut off the friendship and come to talk about the situation if feelings do develop.

If it was a new friend, and I was feeling uneasy for whatever reason, I'd want to meet the person. I'd expect to be included in the friendship until I knew what was going on.

**neilpie** · 27-07-13, 08:08 PM

well they did hang out,her and a guy she has been friends with. they went to a burger joint and got a burger and just talked. she made a point of tellin me nothing happened

**michelle23** · 27-07-13, 08:24 PM

Originally Posted by neilpie

she made a point of tellin me nothing happened

Sounds dodgy. Why would she need to tell you that?

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